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Feb 20 2009, 06:31 AM
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Administrative Assistant

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From: Sub Saharan Weather Cloud, South Africa
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Also, please tell what you find beneficial about DF.
I came to DF because I suffered a traumatic experience.
I found the people at DF to be the most amazing, loving, kindest people and they greatly helped me on my path to surving and healing from my trauma.
Trace
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Listen in deep silence. Be very still and open your mind.... Sink deep into the peace that waits for you beyond the frantic, riotous thoughts and sights and sounds of this insane world. - A course of miracles.
True beauty must come, must be grown, from within.... - Ralph W Trine.Faith is the true belief we have in hope and hope is the thing that keeps us going to have faith
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Feb 20 2009, 08:58 AM
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Silver Member
     
Group: Silver Member
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From: Florida...but a NYC'er for life!
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I came to the DF because my life was becoming unmanageable again and I needed a place where I could get information and support and just let out my feelings. I couldn't have asked for a better find! This site completely exceeded my expectations. What I find beneficial: - The sheer size of the site...it's always active. - The amount of forums...there's something for everything. - The obvious thought and care that went into the creation of this site...well done! - The availability, dedication, and compassion of the moderating team. - THE MEMBERS...their intelligence, warmth, strength, caring, helpfulness, love, great advice, etc. I could go on and on. Even though this site is huge, everyone feels like a friend. - The amount of ways there are to keep busy on the site. - I've finally found a place where I feel comfortable blogging. - The site is easy to navigate and wonderfully put together from a technical point of view. Great job, Coop! I adore this community and am so happy to be a part of it. I've finally found a place where I can let it all down and that takes an enormous amount of weight off my psyche. I feel free to talk about anything and that is so important to me. The topics that come up are insightful, the support given is real, the advice given is invaluable, and the knowledge base is huge. I would be in a much worse place if the DF didn't exist. I know it. My recovery is one of the most important things going on in my life and the DF is one of the most important tools in my kit. I can't say enough how much I appreciate the existence of this site and all the people on it.
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Ten Rules for Being Human 1. You will receive a body. 2. You will be presented with lessons. 3. There are no mistakes, only lessons. 4. Lesson are repeated until learned. 5. Learning does not end. 6. "There" is no better than "here". 7. Others are only mirrors of you. 8. What you make of your life is up to you. 9. All the answers lie inside of you. 10. You will forget all of this at birth.
(From "If Life is a Game, These are the Rules", by Dr. Cherie Carter-Scott)
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Feb 20 2009, 02:25 PM
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Newbie

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I'm hoping to be understood too.... i had a traumatic experience when i was 16 and it's changed my life and who i am.I want to get back to who i was before and i'd like to make friends. xxx
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Feb 24 2009, 12:27 PM
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Advanced Member
   
Group: Advanced Member
Posts: 249
Joined: 1-November 08
From: UK
Member No.: 30,293

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I found DF because I wanted to find some other people who had experiences of the type of depression I have. I wanted to find all the information I needed in one place, and I wanted a place that didn't exclude other mental health problems. This place filled all those.
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Dx: psychotic depression, panic disorder, rheumatoid arthitis, 'something else going on' Rx: mirtazapine 45mg,respiridone 1mg, adalimumab 40mg, azathioprine 150mg, hydroxychloroquine 400mg, prednisolone 5mg, diclofenac sodium 150mg, codeine 30mg, zaleplon 10mg, calcium and vit.d
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Feb 24 2009, 12:54 PM
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Silver Member
     
Group: Silver Member
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Joined: 10-January 07
From: UK
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QUOTE (frangipani @ Feb 20 2009, 08:58 AM)  I came to the DF because my life was becoming unmanageable again and I needed a place where I could get information and support and just let out my feelings. I couldn't have asked for a better find! This site completely exceeded my expectations. What I find beneficial: - The sheer size of the site...it's always active. - The amount of forums...there's something for everything. - The obvious thought and care that went into the creation of this site...well done! - The availability, dedication, and compassion of the moderating team. - THE MEMBERS...their intelligence, warmth, strength, caring, helpfulness, love, great advice, etc. I could go on and on. Even though this site is huge, everyone feels like a friend. - The amount of ways there are to keep busy on the site. - I've finally found a place where I feel comfortable blogging. - The site is easy to navigate and wonderfully put together from a technical point of view. Great job, Coop! I adore this community and am so happy to be a part of it. I've finally found a place where I can let it all down and that takes an enormous amount of weight off my psyche. I feel free to talk about anything and that is so important to me. The topics that come up are insightful, the support given is real, the advice given is invaluable, and the knowledge base is huge. I would be in a much worse place if the DF didn't exist. I know it. My recovery is one of the most important things going on in my life and the DF is one of the most important tools in my kit. I can't say enough how much I appreciate the existence of this site and all the people on it.  I'd like to echo what Frangipani has said, this is a great place where i always feel welcome (& i'm avoidant) and everyone is accepting of one another. I love this site and all my DF friends
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ClareI dont know whats right or whats real anymore, i dont know how i'm meant to feel anymore - Lily Allen Insanity Is Hereditary - You Get It From Your Kids! Current DX Borderline and Avoidant PD'S mixed and Bipolar IIMeds - Seroquel and Escitalopram  
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Mar 4 2009, 06:08 AM
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Newbie

Group: Newbie
Posts: 35
Joined: 11-December 08
Member No.: 31,644

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I found DF while desperately trying to find a reason to live...it is helpful finding others that really understand and have good ways of coping.
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Mar 8 2009, 05:10 AM
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Newbie

Group: Newbie
Posts: 45
Joined: 6-March 09
From: Melbourne, Australia
Member No.: 34,420

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...Lost my supposed best friend, whether or not they were to begin with, I have lost there trust I feel...
Plus to give up the games, it numbed everything, even my socil life...and my spelling it seems.
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Truth is Beauty no matter how ugly the secret
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Mar 8 2009, 04:02 PM
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Newbie

Group: Newbie
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Joined: 8-March 09
From: England
Member No.: 34,479

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QUOTE (one @ Mar 4 2009, 06:08 AM)  I found DF while desperately trying to find a reason to live...it is helpful finding others that really understand and have good ways of coping. i joined so i could read what others are going through and see if they are having as bad a time as me. I'm 18 and feel totally lost in this world and i'm so alone would like to perhaps make a few friends. I'm so self conscious it drives me crazy. I feel as if the whole world is against me, and people hate me. The only form of escapism for me is alcohol which makes me a totally different person. At work i have to act like something i'm not and it's ******* me. I can't tell none of the few friends i do have because i'm so ashamed of myself for being this way. I just wish i could think differently about myself and be possitive. Always seems to be one step forward 2 back.
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Mar 8 2009, 04:09 PM
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Newbie

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Joined: 31-January 09
From: Alexandria, VA
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I came here to talk to others who are depressed and SI, but I can't access that forum for whatever reason.
Otherwise, I guess this is a decent site, save the fact that I can't access parts that I feel I need.
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Mar 9 2009, 03:30 AM
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Newbie

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Joined: 15-October 08
From: New York City
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Tried a few sites but this seemed the best. I had to get more involved with people, take more of my therapist's advice and get more active in my own recovery from apsd and anxiety.
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Life is a learning process with no score. You learn as much or more from failure as from success. The only true failure is not having learned
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Mar 21 2009, 07:00 PM
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Newbie

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Joined: 21-March 09
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Hi all, I came to DF because right now I'm not leaving the house much or functioning very well and I need to find resources that I can take advantage of from my home. Also, having a place I can connect 24 hours day gives me some peace of mind.
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Mar 25 2009, 09:30 AM
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Senior Member
    
Group: Senior Member
Posts: 530
Joined: 3-February 09
From: South Africa
Member No.: 33,384

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****I am rambling here, because this is triggering me and I have never told this story. Trace, please sensor me if you feel this is inappropriate****
I was invited to join DF by another member whom I met on another support site. I value him very much, and he encouraged and helped me incredibly on the other site during that initial fear and panic and confusion a year ago.
I was initially extremely happy on that site, but I slowly started feeling as if some of the members started needling me, then hating me, and this was allowed by the mod's, and some even started taking part in it. Fortunately my friend had already left by then as they had done this to him as well, as soon as they realised that he is very well educated in psychiatry and psychology. He still sometimes visited that site, and he saw what was beginning to happen to me, recognised what had been done to other "popular" members, and he urged me away there, rather to come here.
That site was my whole life, it was my first site I joined, and at that point I could not believe what was happening. When some of those people started ganging up on me, my whole world disintegrated. I received private emails of support, but a lot of people were too scared to openly support me, for fear of that happening to them as well.
If my friend had not invited me here, almost forced me away there, I would not be alive today, because this site saved my life.
My friend had started opposing them, then became very disillusioned at that site (he was a member there long before me) and he invited me long ago already to come to DF and see how a support forum should be managed! Since joining here, I have never even visited the old site again!
People here understand that I have a different personality, come from a maverick-type culture, I have a different home language, that I write funny, but that whatever I write is always meant well, in deep caring for everyone here's suffering, and in a deep wish to make the world a better place for others if I can.
Thank you for reading this.
Now I am crying the tears of the hurt of that episode
I hope my friend is reading this
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Don't stop, five minutes before the miracle. - Ptika Ntuli
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Mar 27 2009, 10:59 PM
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Newbie

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Joined: 20-January 09
From: Australia Queensland
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i found this place by searching for forums where i can be myself and let out my not so good emotions. Sometimes just knowing that some1 else is going through the same s*** can make me feel better. Everyone in here seems to be there for each other so i really appreciate this site.
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Apr 12 2009, 04:35 PM
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Just Registered
Group: Just Registered
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From: Lake Oswego, Oregon
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QUOTE (Trace @ Feb 20 2009, 07:31 AM)  Also, please tell what you find beneficial about DF.
I came to DF because I suffered a traumatic experience.
I found the people at DF to be the most amazing, loving, kindest people and they greatly helped me on my path to surving and healing from my trauma.
Trace Trace, I hope to find how to help myself and my husband. He is in a wheelchair with a chronic pressure sore that has not healed in two years and a week ago last Thursday lost his job of 5yrs leaving him to sign up for cobra. My husband is a proud man used to being the bread winner and now is looking into getting disability from the government. There will be a radical adjustment needed on both of our parts to keep us together and loving one another. Thank you for caring. littlebirdy
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Apr 13 2009, 04:06 AM
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Administrative Assistant

Group: Administration
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From: Sub Saharan Weather Cloud, South Africa
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QUOTE (littlebirdy @ Apr 12 2009, 11:35 PM)  QUOTE (Trace @ Feb 20 2009, 07:31 AM)  Also, please tell what you find beneficial about DF.
I came to DF because I suffered a traumatic experience.
I found the people at DF to be the most amazing, loving, kindest people and they greatly helped me on my path to surving and healing from my trauma.
Trace Trace, I hope to find how to help myself and my husband. He is in a wheelchair with a chronic pressure sore that has not healed in two years and a week ago last Thursday lost his job of 5yrs leaving him to sign up for cobra. My husband is a proud man used to being the bread winner and now is looking into getting disability from the government. There will be a radical adjustment needed on both of our parts to keep us together and loving one another. Thank you for caring. littlebirdy Hi and Welcome littlebirdy That is a lot to go through for the both of you. You sound like a wonderful wife and may give you all the support that you need. Trace
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Listen in deep silence. Be very still and open your mind.... Sink deep into the peace that waits for you beyond the frantic, riotous thoughts and sights and sounds of this insane world. - A course of miracles.
True beauty must come, must be grown, from within.... - Ralph W Trine.Faith is the true belief we have in hope and hope is the thing that keeps us going to have faith
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Apr 13 2009, 04:26 AM
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Newbie

Group: Newbie
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Joined: 13-May 07
From: UK
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DFs has been a comfort. Knowing its here, a community that understands what the Glum can be like. I joined so that I would have somewhere to turn when I became aware a Glum was on the way. Unfortunately, often by the time I realise its coming on I've left it too late. Silly boy. And I just hunker down and ride it out best I can.
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Apr 13 2009, 10:03 PM
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Just Registered
Group: Just Registered
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From: Lake Oswego, Oregon
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QUOTE (Trace @ Apr 13 2009, 05:06 AM)  QUOTE (littlebirdy @ Apr 12 2009, 11:35 PM)  QUOTE (Trace @ Feb 20 2009, 07:31 AM)  Also, please tell what you find beneficial about DF.
I came to DF because I suffered a traumatic experience.
I found the people at DF to be the most amazing, loving, kindest people and they greatly helped me on my path to surving and healing from my trauma.
Trace Trace, I hope to find how to help myself and my husband. He is in a wheelchair with a chronic pressure sore that has not healed in two years and a week ago last Thursday lost his job of 5yrs leaving him to sign up for cobra. My husband is a proud man used to being the bread winner and now is looking into getting disability from the government. There will be a radical adjustment needed on both of our parts to keep us together and loving one another. Thank you for caring. littlebirdy Hi and Welcome littlebirdy That is a lot to go through for the both of you. You sound like a wonderful wife and may give you all the support that you need. Trace Thank you, Trace Danita
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Apr 14 2009, 11:31 AM
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Newbie

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I found it by googling depression forum,I think it was the same day i was diagnosed with depression.
p.s Thank you for your welcome Trace,I already feel more confident about posting.
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Apr 15 2009, 04:14 AM
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Newbie

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Joined: 13-April 09
From: Sheffield, UK
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I found this site because lately (and sporadically throughout my life) I've been having moments where I feel like I'm just one negative experience away falling down into one of my dark moods. The slightest thing can trigger it and it doesn't always have to be the same thing. Sometimes it's work, sometimes it's my family or it could be a random event that has annoyed me that I feel unable to cope with. When it happens though it's as if my world is about to cave in. It's silly really because to alot of people whatever has happened is easy for them to just shrug off and get on with it but sometimes I just can't do it and it stays on my mind for days or even weeks after, bringing back the same feeling of hopelessness. The reasoning behind why I feel like this alot can probably be pointed towards my childhood as I was bullied and made to feel worthless for the first 7 years of my school life and it's never been dealt with. I'm 33 now by the way. As a result I'm a nervous and edgy adult with constant mood swings and other issues that have been picked up along the way. When my mood goes dark my mind and body pretty much shuts down, as it used to when I was being bullied, and my whole self simply refuses to fight back as used to happen at school. I never stood up to my bullies or fought back and I've been the same ever since in any situation. It's easier for me to give up and let someone else go in front than to fight my own corner. In my mid 20s I got into a relationship with a woman I'd known since my late teens and it was the worst thing I could've possibly done. She was a complete uncompromising control freak and I've never had such vicious arguments in a relationship ever before. She tried to change everything she could about me. My diet, my dress sense, my hobbies, the way I eat and drink and just tried to control my entire life to change me into the person she thought I should be. In the last couple of months or our 7 month stint together I started to think 'If you want to change me that much, why not go out and find someone who likes being your doormat and leave me alone. Why be with me if I need that much improvement.' Our relationship ended on a very explosive note and the experience is still with me in my darkest moments and as with my childhood bullying experience I frequently torture myself during this time and imagine scenarios of me getting my revenge on her and the main bully from school. Clearly this is not healthy. I have few friends which doesn't bother me too much because I do prefer my own company these days but it does make me wonder if it's normal to be this way, especially when I see people at work and talk to folks online who seem to have a huge social circle that I know I would be unable to manage. I'm getting married in a month's time to a wonderful lady and she has suggested that I go on some sort of medication to help me. One of her friends is bipolar and she has been on medication for a few years, as has our next door neighbour since she was burgled a few years ago due to the stress it caused. I really don't want to go on medication as I don't want to become dependant on it and never be able to get of it again. It scares me that it won't work and I'll end up being passed from med to med. I'm really not a fan of any kind of drug and prefer to just try to let my body heal itself wherever possible. My relationship with my fiancee is ok although I do play alot of computer games in my spare time and it's my only escape and the only thing that calms me down. The amount of time I spend online is an issue though and my fiancee has said one or two times that it'll be the end of us. She works alot of hours and is constantly tired, and I'm currently off work with anxiety/stress. I like my job most of the time but I've recently been transferred back to a department that I really can't stand and on my first day back I had a bit of an episode and I left the office, went to my doctor and she signed me off. I'm dreading going back next week and I'm wondering if I should just go back to my doctor and get more time off. If I keep doing that though will I ever go back? If that happens we'll lose our house because my fiancee can't afford the mortgage payments on her own and it'll most likely be the end of us too. I'll stop typing here as I've gone on far too long and probably bored most of you. Hopefully though some of this might sound familiar to someone and they may know the best way for me to start getting myself out of this mess.
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