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 Aug 29 2009, 04:07 PM
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Distressed- Yes, checking makes me get obsessive whereas if I remember it's just hair and life consists of far more things and I keep busy, it tends to dampen or stop the need to cut. Thank you so much for replying to me - it means a lot, knowing that there are other people out there who know what it's like firsthand and understand.  And thanks also for replying freda123 - I'm on cipramil/ citalopram for mild depression and I know that feeling anxious/depressed is a trigger for me too. Almost like I get relief from cutting but am also punishing myself at the same time.
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Aug 30 2009, 10:46 PM
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QUOTE (DisTressed @ Aug 28 2009, 07:36 PM)  It's been over a year since I've cut. my hair is getting pretty long and that's how I need to keep it. I'm optimistic that I'm over it for good, but I've gone back and forth for nearly 20 years now.
I too have used a bic razor, nail clippers, knives, hedge clippers. deprived myself of sleep and food while in my obsession.
It's a horrible thing when you're rock bottom. the scissors become my drug. my husband goes so far as to remove all cutting implements from the house. I'm not sure I'll ever be able to have scissors around the house.
good luck to you all... Hello, I am new to this site. I have been cutting my hair for about 8 years. I never let it grow past 5 months maybe 6. Lately I've been cutting it every day again. I also used every household instrument I could find. The problem is is that Im a hairstylist so whenever someone asks me to bring home my tools I get really nervous because I know whats going to happen if Im on a semi good streak. If Im on a good streak I may not touch it but If I'm in the midst of going into a good streak and I bring home my scissors I get so upset and I have to lie about why I can't bring my tools home. I know exactly what you mean about depriving yourself of everything when you are obsessing. Over the years this has ruined parts of my life that I could never get back. What usually stops me is buzzing it with and 8 guard. Its about 1 inch long and I die it platinum blond so it looks edgy.
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Aug 31 2009, 02:27 AM
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Welcome gvercil!
I'm new to the site too. The last straw for me the past few days has been my hairdresser of over 7 years telling me not to come back again because of my cutting- and it's the first time I've cut in 9 months too. Your hair sounds funky. I keep mine short and luckily it suits me better than longer hair but when it's short I also obsess about it more and cut it more.
I wish you were my hairdresser- at least you'd understand my hair cutting benders!
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Aug 31 2009, 11:52 AM
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QUOTE (halcyondays @ Aug 31 2009, 02:27 AM) Welcome gvercil!
I'm new to the site too. The last straw for me the past few days has been my hairdresser of over 7 years telling me not to come back again because of my cutting- and it's the first time I've cut in 9 months too. Your hair sounds funky. I keep mine short and luckily it suits me better than longer hair but when it's short I also obsess about it more and cut it more.
I wish you were my hairdresser- at least you'd understand my hair cutting benders! I have a client that has our problem and I entertain all of her obsessions while she's in my chair. I feel her hair all over to make sure it's even as I do with all my clients but I also let her feel it too. She has this compulsion with her sides more than anything and I told her that If I use a long clipper guard om her sides that it might relieve her anxiety for a while because she will know that it's all the same length. My co-workers make fun of me because I cut my hair so much but we are like a family and they've come to realize that no one is going to stop me from cutting it. As a matter of fact I get quite angry when someone tells me to stop. Usually they are a new employee. Then my usual co-workers will tell them to leave me alone because this is what she does. They don't say a word to me anymore. We just go about conversation while Im doing it. I only do it when we are closed because I work right in the window so I don't need clients seeing this. I've managed to grow my hair for 6 months recently and then I started thinning it out because it's so thick and thats usually when the cutting starts again. Then finally I take the clippers and inch long guard buzz my head and dye it platinum. It looks hot but I want to grow it soo bad. I think your hairdresser is rude for telling you not to come back. If your willing to pay for a haircut all the time go for it. I would love your business!!
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Sep 3 2009, 06:37 PM
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Hi. I am new here, but not new to this whole compulsive hair cutting. I have had this for a long time and it has gotten a lot worse now that I am a stay at home mom. My husband think I am crazy and to tell you the truth, maybe I am. I will go for 20 haircuts during the week and still find uneven pieces of hair that if I do not go to a salon at get fixed, I will cut it myself and do a crappy job because I am not a stylist. I have cut my own hair. I got my haircut twice this past weekend. I would rather take my kids to play than spend time worrying about my dumb hair. Argh. the sides are super short and uneven, so today, I got extensions. I am going to attempt to regrow my hair. In june, it was almost down to my shoulders and then I got another crappy cut and here we go again. BLAH. LOTS of tears and agony of the whole thing. I am on Zoloft but I think I need to talk to someone about the problem. It is out of control. I am spending money that I probably should not be spending and I am agonizing over it. It is just hair and it is embarassing to have these feelings. I am a good mom and a good wife. My family is taken care of. I am losing weight and my kids know I love them. I even volunteer at my son's school. Then there is this demon that rears its ugly head and takes over and I cannot shake it.I do not know what to do. Does anyone else feel like this? Ack-I am going to lose my mind one day.
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Sep 6 2009, 04:27 PM
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QUOTE (Crazee1 @ Sep 4 2009, 12:37 AM) Hi. I am new here, but not new to this whole compulsive hair cutting. I have had this for a long time and it has gotten a lot worse now that I am a stay at home mom. My husband think I am crazy and to tell you the truth, maybe I am. I will go for 20 haircuts during the week and still find uneven pieces of hair that if I do not go to a salon at get fixed, I will cut it myself and do a crappy job because I am not a stylist. I have cut my own hair. I got my haircut twice this past weekend. I would rather take my kids to play than spend time worrying about my dumb hair. Argh. the sides are super short and uneven, so today, I got extensions. I am going to attempt to regrow my hair. In june, it was almost down to my shoulders and then I got another crappy cut and here we go again. BLAH. LOTS of tears and agony of the whole thing. I am on Zoloft but I think I need to talk to someone about the problem. It is out of control. I am spending money that I probably should not be spending and I am agonizing over it. It is just hair and it is embarassing to have these feelings. I am a good mom and a good wife. My family is taken care of. I am losing weight and my kids know I love them. I even volunteer at my son's school. Then there is this demon that rears its ugly head and takes over and I cannot shake it.I do not know what to do. Does anyone else feel like this? Ack-I am going to lose my mind one day. I'm sorry you're going through such a crappy time. But you're not alone with this compulsion. I've had my hair cut this weekend because last weekend my old hairdresser didn't cut it and it really needed thinning out- it was driving me mad (she asked me not to come back because of my cutting- see earlier posts!) I feel better now it's been trimmed. But when the compulsion to have it cut is on me, I'm like a woman demented! I can't find any peace 'til it's been done- and if a hairdresser can't give me an appointment I cut it myself. It's like I'm full of rage until it's done. It's worse when I'm pre-menstrual. Please know you're not alone- it might not help with the cutting thing but will hopefully help you feel less alone. I really hope the extensions help you break free from the pattern of cutting.
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Sep 6 2009, 04:35 PM
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QUOTE I have a client that has our problem and I entertain all of her obsessions while she's in my chair. I feel her hair all over to make sure it's even as I do with all my clients but I also let her feel it too. She has this compulsion with her sides more than anything and I told her that If I use a long clipper guard om her sides that it might relieve her anxiety for a while because she will know that it's all the same length. My co-workers make fun of me because I cut my hair so much but we are like a family and they've come to realize that no one is going to stop me from cutting it. As a matter of fact I get quite angry when someone tells me to stop. Usually they are a new employee. Then my usual co-workers will tell them to leave me alone because this is what she does. They don't say a word to me anymore. We just go about conversation while Im doing it. I only do it when we are closed because I work right in the window so I don't need clients seeing this. I've managed to grow my hair for 6 months recently and then I started thinning it out because it's so thick and thats usually when the cutting starts again. Then finally I take the clippers and inch long guard buzz my head and dye it platinum. It looks hot but I want to grow it soo bad. I think your hairdresser is rude for telling you not to come back. If your willing to pay for a haircut all the time go for it. I would love your business!! meant to also reply to you gvercil - sorry it's taken a while. I went back to work this week so things have been pretty hectic. It's lovely that you are so sensitive with your client who cuts her hair herself. And good on your colleagues too for being kind about it. I've found a new hairdresser and have told her what I do and asked her if she's willing to cut my hair and put up with my cutting benders; she was brilliant and said she's always had one client during her hairstyling career who cuts her hair herself, so that made me feel more secure about trusting her. I do feel angry about my old hairdresser because I think it's a sort of discrimination- sure she's within her rights to do what she did, but this is an anxiety/OC disorder and in a way her treatment of me *feels* like discrimination. I'll get over it though!! Hope you are doing ok.
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Sep 7 2009, 03:58 AM
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QUOTE (halcyondays @ Sep 7 2009, 07:35 AM) QUOTE I have a client that has our problem and I entertain all of her obsessions while she's in my chair. I feel her hair all over to make sure it's even as I do with all my clients but I also let her feel it too. She has this compulsion with her sides more than anything and I told her that If I use a long clipper guard om her sides that it might relieve her anxiety for a while because she will know that it's all the same length. My co-workers make fun of me because I cut my hair so much but we are like a family and they've come to realize that no one is going to stop me from cutting it. As a matter of fact I get quite angry when someone tells me to stop. Usually they are a new employee. Then my usual co-workers will tell them to leave me alone because this is what she does. They don't say a word to me anymore. We just go about conversation while Im doing it. I only do it when we are closed because I work right in the window so I don't need clients seeing this. I've managed to grow my hair for 6 months recently and then I started thinning it out because it's so thick and thats usually when the cutting starts again. Then finally I take the clippers and inch long guard buzz my head and dye it platinum. It looks hot but I want to grow it soo bad. I think your hairdresser is rude for telling you not to come back. If your willing to pay for a haircut all the time go for it. I would love your business!! meant to also reply to you gvercil - sorry it's taken a while. I went back to work this week so things have been pretty hectic. It's lovely that you are so sensitive with your client who cuts her hair herself. And good on your colleagues too for being kind about it. I've found a new hairdresser and have told her what I do and asked her if she's willing to cut my hair and put up with my cutting benders; she was brilliant and said she's always had one client during her hairstyling career who cuts her hair herself, so that made me feel more secure about trusting her. I do feel angry about my old hairdresser because I think it's a sort of discrimination- sure she's within her rights to do what she did, but this is an anxiety/OC disorder and in a way her treatment of me *feels* like discrimination. I'll get over it though!! Hope you are doing ok. Hi there, I haven't visited the forum recently, but have posted earlier in the thread. My hairdresser doesn't know I have OCD, but I'm sure she wonders why I come in for trims so often (I've managed to scale it down to 5 weeks). About 2 years ago when I was really ill, I used to go to a different hairdresser. At times I would want it cut every week/2 weeks. Eventually she stopped returning my calls. I'm assuming its because she thought I was nuts and just didn't want to deal with me and my hair anymore. I really liked the way she cut my hair (very straight and even) but I found a new hairdresser who does just as good a job.
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Sep 11 2009, 12:04 AM
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Hi. I am new to this site. I can't stop cutting my hair. I am currently in the 'freakout' phase where I will stand in the bathroom and cut until I just can't stand up anymore. And I'm doing this every day. I'm now at the point that I am going to get it shaved off and start over. This will be the 5th time this year I've had to shave it. As you might guess, I'm not getting very far with the growing between shaves. Has anyone had any success with stopping and how did you do it? I've been tossing around the idea of throwing out all cutting tools, taking down all mirrors and just staying in bed for 3 months (or at least not leaving the house) I rarely leave the house now because of what I do. Then I'd have, what, about 1 1/2" of new hair? Short of breaking both my hands, I'm really at a loss as to what to do. I am consumed by this. I've been to the doctors, they've put me on several different drugs and still, here I am...cutting obsessively. Maybe hypnosis? I can't take it anymore...stop the madnesss!
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Sep 15 2009, 12:14 AM
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QUOTE (Lizzy @ Jul 7 2004, 03:45 AM) Member
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Hello,
Im pretty new to this area but I thought Id share my compulsion. Im on a hair cutting spree.I go through this every couple months.I cut my own hair( im a hairstylist by trade so I think I know what Im doing! ) Ok ,so I think its time for a trim.I cut it.Then I analyze...Nope ,not good enough.cut some more.next day .analyze."Oh I can make this better! Cut some more and on and on.Im on about day 4 of this.I now have a short blond spike!I looked in the mirror just now and found something new to cut.I stopped and came here instead.I told my Pdoc about this and he says its not OCD thats it anxiety.He thinks I do this when Im stressed out.Like an outlet.I really think its more. It so weird because in comes in cycles.Maybe its a form of that hair disorder(dont know how to spell it)Well I told my pdoc how it makes me feel when Im cutting my hair.excitment and relief.and then when the phase is over embarrassment and shame.How could I do this to myself again!!??2 weeks ago he asked me to write down my feelings before I start cutting. I tried.but I didnt have the words for what I was feeling.I have an appt today. So I wonder what he will say when he sees me?!Sorry If Im rambling.But just sitting here telling you guys feels good! And Im going to keep busy and Im not going cut anymore today!
Cat
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Hi Cat - welcome. It's when habit becomes a necessity that we begin to go down the OCD route - join the Club!
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hey cat,
distraction is a good technique if you can find ways to avoid cutting your hair andd do some thing instead.
i dont have anything else to say really.
we all have our little things that we do in times of stress.
can you cut other people's hair instead?
or does it have to be your own?
IC~ Hil Cat I am also a hairstylist with the same problem. I also have short spiky blond hair. Ive been obsessing about my hair for about 8 years. I keep it blond because it's so short that it looks more stylish blond. Sometimes I cut it everyday and of course it is never 100% even so I take a number 8 clipper guard and do my whole head. Then I can go maybe 6 months without cutting it until it starts to get to thick and then I think that I don't have the problem any more so I start shaping it here and there until the cycle starts all over again. I'd rather have it an inch long for the rest of my life than have this problem consume all of my time. I can cut it for hours. Once I cut it for 8 hours straight and I think I took off about only an inch the whole time. The fact that we are hairstylists may even be worse. But then again it would probably be more frustrating if I had to go to someone else to do it and then I would be constantly checking it and not know how to fix it. But we as hairstylists don't even know how to fix it. The problem is is we just don't know when to stop. I would love to grow my hair. I had long dark curly hair. I'm afraid if I grow it that I may never get it cut and it will just be down to my *** for the rest of my life. Ive read bloggs where girls grew there hair for 10 years and then finally had someone give them a haircut and they started all over again checking and cutting and now they have short hair again.
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 Sep 15 2009, 12:31 AM
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I mself know about cutting on the hair! And I am not a Beautician! My son has hid all the cissors from me. For me I get frustrated and get tired of dealing with it. Just one more thing I have to worry about. I find that hats work well on those days, and I think my hair is finally starting to grow out. I still do a trirm trim here and there but force myself to stop when I know it is going bad! QUOTE (Lizzy @ Jul 7 2004, 01:45 AM) Member
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Hello,
Im pretty new to this area but I thought Id share my compulsion. Im on a hair cutting spree.I go through this every couple months.I cut my own hair( im a hairstylist by trade so I think I know what Im doing! ) Ok ,so I think its time for a trim.I cut it.Then I analyze...Nope ,not good enough.cut some more.next day .analyze."Oh I can make this better! Cut some more and on and on.Im on about day 4 of this.I now have a short blond spike!I looked in the mirror just now and found something new to cut.I stopped and came here instead.I told my Pdoc about this and he says its not OCD thats it anxiety.He thinks I do this when Im stressed out.Like an outlet.I really think its more. It so weird because in comes in cycles.Maybe its a form of that hair disorder(dont know how to spell it)Well I told my pdoc how it makes me feel when Im cutting my hair.excitment and relief.and then when the phase is over embarrassment and shame.How could I do this to myself again!!??2 weeks ago he asked me to write down my feelings before I start cutting. I tried.but I didnt have the words for what I was feeling.I have an appt today. So I wonder what he will say when he sees me?!Sorry If Im rambling.But just sitting here telling you guys feels good! And Im going to keep busy and Im not going cut anymore today!
Cat
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Posted: June 28 2004,10:40
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Hi Cat - welcome. It's when habit becomes a necessity that we begin to go down the OCD route - join the Club!
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Posted: June 28 2004,14:37
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hey cat,
distraction is a good technique if you can find ways to avoid cutting your hair andd do some thing instead.
i dont have anything else to say really.
we all have our little things that we do in times of stress.
can you cut other people's hair instead?
or does it have to be your own?
IC~
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Sep 15 2009, 12:51 AM
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QUOTE (Crazee1 @ Sep 3 2009, 06:37 PM) Hi. I am new here, but not new to this whole compulsive hair cutting. I have had this for a long time and it has gotten a lot worse now that I am a stay at home mom. My husband think I am crazy and to tell you the truth, maybe I am. I will go for 20 haircuts during the week and still find uneven pieces of hair that if I do not go to a salon at get fixed, I will cut it myself and do a crappy job because I am not a stylist. I have cut my own hair. I got my haircut twice this past weekend. I would rather take my kids to play than spend time worrying about my dumb hair. Argh. the sides are super short and uneven, so today, I got extensions. I am going to attempt to regrow my hair. In june, it was almost down to my shoulders and then I got another crappy cut and here we go again. BLAH. LOTS of tears and agony of the whole thing. I am on Zoloft but I think I need to talk to someone about the problem. It is out of control. I am spending money that I probably should not be spending and I am agonizing over it. It is just hair and it is embarassing to have these feelings. I am a good mom and a good wife. My family is taken care of. I am losing weight and my kids know I love them. I even volunteer at my son's school. Then there is this demon that rears its ugly head and takes over and I cannot shake it.I do not know what to do. Does anyone else feel like this? Ack-I am going to lose my mind one day. I am so sorry to hear this story. I know what this problem did to my relationship and how much time it took away. I can't imagine having a family and spending money on haircuts daily. I completely feel for you I know exactly what you are going through. It is embarrassing because it sounds so stupid to other people. It is like a drug. You have to figure out how to at least stop for periods at a time. It may never go away but if you have a way to at least be temporarily satisfied for a week then a month then 2 months and so on at least you can have a better quality of life. Being that you are not a hairstylist doesn't really matter because you obviously are constantly checking. First thing is to figure out how to stop checking. There is such a therapy called exposure therapy where you let yourself go through the anxiety of not checking. Refrain from checking. This may work for a few days or a week or if you are better than me hopefully even longer. What works for me is that I take a pair of clippers and I put the longest guard on it which is an inch long. I buzz my whole entire head with this long guard. I go over it several times until I pretty certain that I got it good. It actually looks cute and stylish when I have it that short. I always get lots of compliments. I gel it or I'll where cute little hats sometimes too.I usually won't touch it for about 5 or 6 months because in my mind I know that it couldn,t possibly be uneven because I used a machine with a measured guard so every single piece is that same length. What usually starts me going through the cycle again is after 6 months my hair starts to look like it needs some shape. This is the trap. The problem is still there but I think it isn't because I haven't been checking nor do I have an urge. I just legitamitlly need a haircut now. I haven't been able to get through this part. If I have someone else do it I will check it. If I do it myself I will check it. And here starts the cycle again. I am not on any medication. I still cut my hair when I was on medication I just didn't do it as often. Medication sucks!! Try to do this on your own if you can. I just figure out how to reply so hopefully you will get this. I would really like to hear from you. Good luck!!
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Sep 15 2009, 12:57 AM
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QUOTE (halcyondays @ Sep 6 2009, 04:35 PM) QUOTE I have a client that has our problem and I entertain all of her obsessions while she's in my chair. I feel her hair all over to make sure it's even as I do with all my clients but I also let her feel it too. She has this compulsion with her sides more than anything and I told her that If I use a long clipper guard om her sides that it might relieve her anxiety for a while because she will know that it's all the same length. My co-workers make fun of me because I cut my hair so much but we are like a family and they've come to realize that no one is going to stop me from cutting it. As a matter of fact I get quite angry when someone tells me to stop. Usually they are a new employee. Then my usual co-workers will tell them to leave me alone because this is what she does. They don't say a word to me anymore. We just go about conversation while Im doing it. I only do it when we are closed because I work right in the window so I don't need clients seeing this. I've managed to grow my hair for 6 months recently and then I started thinning it out because it's so thick and thats usually when the cutting starts again. Then finally I take the clippers and inch long guard buzz my head and dye it platinum. It looks hot but I want to grow it soo bad. I think your hairdresser is rude for telling you not to come back. If your willing to pay for a haircut all the time go for it. I would love your business!! meant to also reply to you gvercil - sorry it's taken a while. I went back to work this week so things have been pretty hectic. It's lovely that you are so sensitive with your client who cuts her hair herself. And good on your colleagues too for being kind about it. I've found a new hairdresser and have told her what I do and asked her if she's willing to cut my hair and put up with my cutting benders; she was brilliant and said she's always had one client during her hairstyling career who cuts her hair herself, so that made me feel more secure about trusting her. I do feel angry about my old hairdresser because I think it's a sort of discrimination- sure she's within her rights to do what she did, but this is an anxiety/OC disorder and in a way her treatment of me *feels* like discrimination. I'll get over it though!! Hope you are doing ok. I'm so glad to hear that you find a hairstylist that is compatible with you!! I haven't really been on this since I replied to you because I forgot my password so don't worry about it. I hope your doing okay as well.
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QUOTE (crazedymond @ Sep 15 2009, 12:31 AM) I mself know about cutting on the hair! And I am not a Beautician! My son has hid all the cissors from me. For me I get frustrated and get tired of dealing with it. Just one more thing I have to worry about. I find that hats work well on those days, and I think my hair is finally starting to grow out. I still do a trirm trim here and there but force myself to stop when I know it is going bad! QUOTE (Lizzy @ Jul 7 2004, 01:45 AM) Member
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Hello,
Im pretty new to this area but I thought Id share my compulsion. Im on a hair cutting spree.I go through this every couple months.I cut my own hair( im a hairstylist by trade so I think I know what Im doing! ) Ok ,so I think its time for a trim.I cut it.Then I analyze...Nope ,not good enough.cut some more.next day .analyze."Oh I can make this better! Cut some more and on and on.Im on about day 4 of this.I now have a short blond spike!I looked in the mirror just now and found something new to cut.I stopped and came here instead.I told my Pdoc about this and he says its not OCD thats it anxiety.He thinks I do this when Im stressed out.Like an outlet.I really think its more. It so weird because in comes in cycles.Maybe its a form of that hair disorder(dont know how to spell it)Well I told my pdoc how it makes me feel when Im cutting my hair.excitment and relief.and then when the phase is over embarrassment and shame.How could I do this to myself again!!??2 weeks ago he asked me to write down my feelings before I start cutting. I tried.but I didnt have the words for what I was feeling.I have an appt today. So I wonder what he will say when he sees me?!Sorry If Im rambling.But just sitting here telling you guys feels good! And Im going to keep busy and Im not going cut anymore today!
Cat
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Hi Cat - welcome. It's when habit becomes a necessity that we begin to go down the OCD route - join the Club!
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hey cat,
distraction is a good technique if you can find ways to avoid cutting your hair andd do some thing instead.
i dont have anything else to say really.
we all have our little things that we do in times of stress.
can you cut other people's hair instead?
or does it have to be your own?
IC~ I am not Cat but I bet you I can answer that. Even though we are hairstylists we still have to cut are own hair. Probably even more for the simple fact that one we have to always look good two we are in front of a mirror all day and three we always have a pair of scissors in our hand. Sounds scary doesn't it. If there is one good thing that came out of having this problem as that my clients love that I am so "detail" oriented!! If they only knew why...........
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Sep 20 2009, 08:17 PM
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Hello Everyone,
I have been compulsively cutting my hair for 9 years now. I have always felt very alone in this. I have been to many doctors and I have been on just about every anti-depressant, anti-anxiety, and even some anti-psychotics. The longest I have ever gone without cutting is 16 months. I have had it under control for the past 6 months, without medication, but have recently been cutting again everyday for the past several weeks. Before cutting, it was dying it, sometimes several times a day. The cutting has gotten so out of control that about 10 times, I have completely shaved my head, just to make it stop. I have had to wear wigs and have felt very ashamed. In the past, I even lost a job because I could not stop cutting and missed work. I am tired of this controlling my life and I feel like this will never stop. Will it??? For me, I need my hair to "even" and until I feel like it is, I can't stop. I am not currently on any medication as i feel I am no better on it as I am off. I am relieved to find others who understand this and I hope maybe it will help me to be able to talk about this you all. If anyone has any suggestions on how I can get some relief, I would appreciate it.
Thanks!
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Sep 23 2009, 09:49 AM
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Hey everyone. I'm pretty new here. I'm a junior right now and I've been cutting my hair short ever since 8th grade. I actually haven't been cutting for a couple months now. right now I'm wearing extensions since I miss my long hair. I used to have beautiful long hair everyoned loved it. I've been using scissors, nail clippers, one day I tried a knife. But I think I've finally started to control my obsessive hair cutting. I just have to remember there are other things more important and I have a great boyfriend and my life will keep getting better. I just have a problem with my mood swings right now but that's a different story. don't want to get off topic ^^
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Sep 23 2009, 02:12 PM
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I haven't posted in this topic in a while, but I just wanted to say hello to you all once again, and to share my recent success (kind of)- I haven't cut on my hair for about 3+ months now - maybe longer - I kind of lose track of time often. to introduce myself to you all that don't know me --- I am a recovering compulsive haircutter/ colorer --- bi-polar, bpd ---a recovering addict.... etc..etc.. the list goes on. Anyway, I have had a problem with this for about the last 8 years. I still color it quite often - twice this week actually..lol. (from blonde to red and then back to blonde)- you can check out my gallery pics to see all the different colors my hair has been this year.... but I've been able to curb the urge to cut lately. I still check it and re-check it alot, but I have been able to walk away from the mirror and concentrate on other things. If anyone would ever like to chat in the DF chat room send me a personal message, please. I find that keeping myself busy chatting with others, or staying busy doing other things helps me quite a bit.
Big Hugs to you all.
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Sep 25 2009, 08:37 AM
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QUOTE (shannabanana @ Sep 23 2009, 12:12 PM) I haven't posted in this topic in a while, but I just wanted to say hello to you all once again, and to share my recent success (kind of)- I haven't cut on my hair for about 3+ months now - maybe longer - I kind of lose track of time often. to introduce myself to you all that don't know me --- I am a recovering compulsive haircutter/ colorer --- bi-polar, bpd ---a recovering addict.... etc..etc.. the list goes on. Anyway, I have had a problem with this for about the last 8 years. I still color it quite often - twice this week actually..lol. (from blonde to red and then back to blonde)- you can check out my gallery pics to see all the different colors my hair has been this year.... but I've been able to curb the urge to cut lately. I still check it and re-check it alot, but I have been able to walk away from the mirror and concentrate on other things. If anyone would ever like to chat in the DF chat room send me a personal message, please. I find that keeping myself busy chatting with others, or staying busy doing other things helps me quite a bit.
Big Hugs to you all.
ShanBan CONGRADULATIONS! On conquering one thing in our crazy world we have been tossed in. In my eyes it is a sucsess just to make it through one day without doing something to ourselves. I also use to whack on my hair and my sons when he was little, thank god he is a teenager now! He lets me trim it and dye it but nothing dramatic. Matter of fact he got best hair for a guy in his senior class! Keep up the hard work. God Bless.
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Oct 6 2009, 02:21 PM
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I too take prozac. 40 mg.
The thing you need to interrupt is the checking, whether it's with your hands touching your hair,
or looking in the mirror or both. when we took down mirrors, I'd use other reflective surfaces.. microwave, windows, sneak out to car mirrors.
I'd feel high while doing this "one more snip" but then I'd crash and repeat.
The way I stopped checking this last time, was to wear a hat all day for a couple of months. I'd wake up, put it on, and wouldn't take it off till I went to sleep at night.
this, coupled with no mirrors, cutting implements, prozac, and duck tape on the microwave.
my hair has grown 10 inches since my last incident and I feel recovered, but it's an illusion. I know I'm not and never will be completely.
I hope this helps someone..
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Oct 7 2009, 02:18 AM
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QUOTE (DisTressed @ Oct 7 2009, 05:21 AM) I too take prozac. 40 mg.
The thing you need to interrupt is the checking, whether it's with your hands touching your hair,
or looking in the mirror or both. when we took down mirrors, I'd use other reflective surfaces.. microwave, windows, sneak out to car mirrors.
I'd feel high while doing this "one more snip" but then I'd crash and repeat.
The way I stopped checking this last time, was to wear a hat all day for a couple of months. I'd wake up, put it on, and wouldn't take it off till I went to sleep at night.
this, coupled with no mirrors, cutting implements, prozac, and duck tape on the microwave.
my hair has grown 10 inches since my last incident and I feel recovered, but it's an illusion. I know I'm not and never will be completely.
I hope this helps someone.. Hi Distressed, When I was very ill with my ocd I tried taking down mirrors. I found it didn't work for me - and the reason it didn't work was because I knew it was just an avoidance tactic. There are mirrors everywhere, they're a part of life and we have to face them sooner or later. So I decided I'd rather not avoid. I'm glad the prozac is helping. It's hard to stop the checking but essential in order to regain some control. I often found that time had no meaning when I was in front of the mirror - I thought I'd been there about 10 minutes, when I'd actually been there for 1 hour...I know what you mean about recovery. I really think recovery is what you choose to define it as. Most people say they are recovered when the OCD/obsessive haircutting/checking no longer interferes with their day to day life.
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A diamond with a flaw is better than a common stone that is perfect.
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Aim for success, not perfection. Never give up your right to be wrong, because then you will lose the ability to learn new things and move forward with your life. Remember that fear always lurks behind perfectionism. Confronting your fears and allowing yourself the right to be human can, paradoxically, make yourself a happier and more productive person.
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Oct 15 2009, 05:39 PM
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Hi,
I've been struggling with this hair cutting obsession for years, and particularly for the last 7. It saps all my confidence and I've become reliant of wigs to make me feel a bit better, but I think wearing them has also made me feel it's ok to cut my hair because I can hide it. But of course it isn't ok. My daughter hid the scissors from me this morning, bless her. I don't post very often about this probably because my self esteem is so low.
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Oct 27 2009, 03:14 AM
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I've been an obsessive mirror checker and compulsive hair-cutter for over 8 years...but the cutting had stopped recently....and for quite some time - for months actually - some of you know me - and witnessed a little bit of my success with this.....but it came back with a vengeance last week!!!!! I'm not even sure what triggered it..but, I got angry about the relapse ....and did what I said I would never do. I SHAVED MY HEAD COMPLETELY! It was a relief actually. Especially after having had an 8 hour long episode in the mirror. So...I went out and I bought a couple of wigs to wear when I want to feel girly. Otherwise...I just have been sort of trying rock the hardcore punk look. Some say it even made me look younger. So, overall...I'm happy with my decision. I feel like I gained a little power over it... and some relief..... At least for now....
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Oct 28 2009, 10:03 AM
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I cannot believe I found other people with my problem! I thought I was wacked or something!My haircutting habit started when i was 25 yrs old. I always had long hair and one day went into the bathroom to trim my bangs some..something i did reguarly and started to hack away! Now I am 48 and still doing it on a to regular basis. When my hair cutting obsesion first started i would spend hours in the mirror trying to #fix# the damage i did but just made it worse. It was all I could think about day n night.All i wanted to do was stare in the mirror in disbelief at what i did and cut away. Still to this day i still have times when i would go and get the sciccers for a little trim and keep snipping for days. Oh this side isnt laying right..oh maybe if i cut this a little it will look better etc... Not..only made me look worse and i felt like crap after i did. It is on my mind 24-7 everytime i have to do my hair to go out to work or shopping whatever. Why did this happen to us? There has to be a medical condition because so many people have this. Why isnt there medicine to help this? I been on prozac you name it..nothing really helps. I guess it comes down to pure will power like someone who wants a cig so bad but is determined to quit. Very hard and is a constant battle.
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Oct 28 2009, 10:36 PM
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QUOTE (freda123 @ Oct 28 2009, 06:32 PM) I started at about 25 as well and am now 48 did you have a traumatic childhood or lose a parent at a young age im just trying to find a connection as to why we do it my mum also had mental health problems could this be why. I feel really annoyed with myself going 5 months without cutting now i feel im in a vicious circle again. I had a good childhood so no drama there. I dont know what triggered it my life was good. I do know though it has to be some kind of medical condition. I have 4 cousins that suffered from severe depression 3 of which commited suicide. The one that is still alive also has this condition of haircuting too.Not sure if it is something that can be inherited as a complusive disorder or not. I know that i do suffer from bouts of depression and anxiety some of which is caused by me getting so upset over doing this to myself. If I am anxious over something or a big event is going to take place it seems to trigger me off. I talked to dr.s and they look at me like i am the only one in the world who they ever heard did this. When i read these post on here it was if i could of written them all myself.
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 Nov 4 2009, 09:39 AM
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Hi everyone. I am very new to this. I have never posted on anything before. It feels so good to know that there are people out there with this problem. I started cutting my hair in february. I cut the front to make bangs and then I kept perfecting them until i really messed it up. Then i went to a crappy salon and they made it really short to blend it. I kept cutting to make it "look better". It turned out looking so ********. So I went to an expensive salon and they really fixed it. It looked great but I still wanted to make it look better. I kept cutting it until it looked awful and i mentally broke down. I wanted to die. I was at college so I went home to avoid my roomates. I was so embarrassed. I got my hair cut into a pixie look and over the summer I then I didnt cut it. I started cutting again last week and now it looks like crap. I cut the sides and I am just scared that everyone noticed. I feel like i cant get anythign done because i check it in the mirror all the time and trim to make it look better but it just looks worse. I hate it so much. I just want a normal hair cut. I dont understand why i do this...i think it is the compulsion as well as wanting perfection. no one knows how i feel. :( but now im glad to see you all have this issue. after i cut i sometimes get panic attacks and i feel like what just happened wasnt real....like it was a dream. I actually laid in bed one night trying to convince myself i was dreaming. i cant take this anymore.
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Nov 5 2009, 02:46 PM
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i know i feel the same way...i want it to look nice for xmas. i cut it a little today but thats it im going to stop. i even thought about going to a hair salon again so they can make it better but i stopped myself because i know people would notice and get mad that i cut it again. i just wish i knew i way to stop thinking about it!! i want to be the way i used to be before i had this obsession i feel like i was so different and more carefree. my goal is to have it looking great by the summer and then i will rid of this ocd. im really hoping it works because it seems like im taking a step forward and then 2 steps back all the time. and i hate how i get jelious when i see people with long or nice hair. it makes me mad.
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Nov 6 2009, 08:22 AM
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I been good this past week. I threw out the scissors and only fuss a little if i have to go out. I am layedoff from work right now so i dont have to worry about my hair to much. I would love to get hair extensions but living in this small narrow minded town eveyone will know and whisper even more. I use to live in Georgia and had them put in . I loved them had them in for over 2 yrs. When i got them out my hair was way past my shoulders and looked beautiful. Needless to say it only took me a month till i started cutting it again..why?? Some weird obession that hadnt gone away. I would love to get the microbead extensions they look more natural then the tracks on the head. The tracks were hard to hid. ..Well just got done fighting with my hair..have to go out..didnt cut looks ok..colored it last night so brightened it up some too. I hope i can get it down to my shoulders by next summer but not holding my breath that it will happen. Be strong and take one day at a time:)
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Nov 6 2009, 09:00 AM
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QUOTE (freda123 @ Nov 6 2009, 09:39 AM) I caved in again today cut a bit more off have now thrown scissors away too, unless you go through the same thing it is really hard to understand why we have this compulsion, feel really annoyed with myself for cutting it again, havnt ruined it completely yet still looks okay i havnt got to the point of no return like beforethats why ive thrown scissors away im not going to take the risk of leaving them lying around. Its really weird how i went five months without cutting now its almost a daily struggle not to,  its very strange. Yesterday I was adamant I wasnt going to cut it again but have broken that promise already today. Very annoying lol Dont give up honey..you will do it agin. I was so good during the summer. More to do wasnt stuck inside the house. It is hard to stop when you have this image in your mind on how your hair should look. So what if it doesnt for now? What will happen? Nothing..It is all in our minds like if our hair isnt perfect somehow our world will fall apart. Look around you most peoples hair look like they just rolled out of bed.
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Nov 6 2009, 08:42 PM
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QUOTE (freda123 @ Nov 6 2009, 07:36 PM) Thakyou for your support it means alot Dont have to thank me ever..i feel for you since i have the same unrealistic hair prob..
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