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 Dec 24 2009, 09:11 AM
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Lol I'm grinchy too. I hope yer not offended but sometimes humour can really help me. I had visions of the grinch being all grinchy about his hair. So he was fusssing with it and fussing with it til he was all uneven but in the end when his heart began to swell and he finally'got' christmas he didn't care about his hair.
As far as my own hair goes it is now drk purple and I kept the dominatrix bangs which seem to suit me.
From one purple haired grinch to another australian grinch on her couch, Merry Christmas eve Darlin'.
I'm with dmarie. Just hang it out no matter how hard it is and convince yourself "its just my ocd"
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Dec 25 2009, 06:25 AM
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QUOTE (CanadianBrook @ Dec 25 2009, 12:11 AM)  Lol I'm grinchy too. I hope yer not offended but sometimes humour can really help me. I had visions of the grinch being all grinchy about his hair. So he was fusssing with it and fussing with it til he was all uneven but in the end when his heart began to swell and he finally'got' christmas he didn't care about his hair.
As far as my own hair goes it is now drk purple and I kept the dominatrix bangs which seem to suit me.
From one purple haired grinch to another australian grinch on her couch, Merry Christmas eve Darlin'.
I'm with dmarie. Just hang it out no matter how hard it is and convince yourself "its just my ocd" Merry Xmas ladies. It's Xmas night here now. Hubby and I spent xmas day with my parents - we had a nice quiet lunch. I'm still not feeling so good and I'm glad xmas is over. It makes me sad that another year has gone by and I'm still no better with my OCD. It also makes me sad that my parents are getting older and I'm always worried they will pass - xmas would never be the same without either mum or dad. Makes me really upset to think about that, so I try not to. But its always in my mind. I'm also sad that mum especially has to see me unwell - what mother wants their daughter to be mentally ill - I feel so bad. All I can think is that another year has gone by and I'm getting older - I'm going to be 29 in February and I'm very depressed about that. I remember how pretty (and thin) I used to be when I was young, how much better I felt (and looked), how much in love hubby and I were when we met and everything was brand new. Before all this hair cutting craziness started. My nephew (my brother's son) just turned 18 and started driving, drinking, night clubbing etc. I remember when I was young and used to do all those things (it feels like yesterday even though it was close to 10 years ago). These thoughts depress me and just make me feel like there's nothing exciting/worthwhile left in life for me. I don't have any kids (and never will) and I just feel a hollow/empty type of feeling. Does anyone else feel this way??
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"Life is not measured by
the number of breaths we take,
but by the moments
that take our breath away."
A diamond with a flaw is better than a common stone that is perfect.
- Chinese Proverb
Aim for success, not perfection. Never give up your right to be wrong, because then you will lose the ability to learn new things and move forward with your life. Remember that fear always lurks behind perfectionism. Confronting your fears and allowing yourself the right to be human can, paradoxically, make yourself a happier and more productive person.
- Dr. David M. Burns
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Dec 26 2009, 11:46 PM
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QUOTE (freda123 @ Dec 27 2009, 07:08 AM) My thoughts that I cant seem to shake off are people around me who i care about dying and also I have this phobia about getting old I wish I was 29 again I just dread the thought of being an old lady with saggy horrible wrinkly skin who nobody bothers with Ive got a few wrinkles now which I hate. I feel a bit flat as well at the moment Im thinking 2010 another year older and one year off of fifty yipee I wish I was 20 again. I got my haircut today at the salon (couldn't wait until the 7th Jan). I decided it would be ok as I've been feeling so dreadful lately. She did cut a bit too much off, which I wasn't happy about. But I am trying to think of the positives like - all the split ends would have been cut off, this means I can try to go extra long between cuts and well maybe it will be easier to manage. I have to try and find some positives or else I can't get out of bed.
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"Life is not measured by
the number of breaths we take,
but by the moments
that take our breath away."
A diamond with a flaw is better than a common stone that is perfect.
- Chinese Proverb
Aim for success, not perfection. Never give up your right to be wrong, because then you will lose the ability to learn new things and move forward with your life. Remember that fear always lurks behind perfectionism. Confronting your fears and allowing yourself the right to be human can, paradoxically, make yourself a happier and more productive person.
- Dr. David M. Burns
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Dec 27 2009, 07:23 AM
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Little_lee that hollow emptiness is something I associate with depression. No matter how many ppl I have that claim to love me I still get hollow inside and depressed from the sheer fact that I hurt those very same ppl. When I was younger and very suicidal I decided I HAD to live even if just for my kids. Now they say I'm codependent and must learn more about how I feel and what I think instead of doing n caring for others.
When I look inside I barelyknow what I'm REALLY thinking or feeling at all. I think my ocd has gotten in the way. I do remember having my own wants and needs and fulfilling them myself during times of remission. However, ocd has stolen my memory and as crappy as it is, my mind seems to remember every trauma and childhood abuse fully detailed complete with technicolored flashbacks. I'm sorry you are feeling empty and going thru such terribleness. I did some modeling when I was a teenager. I think I have been beautiful before. I maybe was still beautiful until late 30's. Just now I'm noticing age and its gross and terrifying. I'm trying to accept that one day I will be so ugly I won't even look into the mirror. Hey, that already happens pretty regularly and I was obsessedly attached to my mirror. I'm trying to forgive myself but it is not easy. When I do feel completely empty and hollow I've rrationalized to myself that its better than having all the confused feelings my ocd usually gives me. I know its not really true because I've been obsessed with finding and keeping happiness. I used to be size-o and very youthful for my age. Now I look and feel over forty and its disgusting.
I hope your doing ok little_lee.
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Dec 27 2009, 10:11 PM
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I had beautiful hair as a child of 5 but it was wild a tatty too. No conditioner back then either. My mom got so frstrated with me. I was sensitive in my hair. Whenever she touched my hair it really hurt. Sometimes it seemed she was very angry and frustrated with my hair. She cut it permed it and did everything to my hair imaginable until it became so ruined burnt and ugly that by the time I was ten I was soooooo ugly. Only rarely did I ever go get it done by a professional. I took over from my mom when I was twelve doing the desperate things to myself mom taught me. She took her anxiety out on me in many different ways. Now I do too. Maturing does help tho ladies as I hate the ugliness of aging I also feel more able to tell what's my ocd and what's me :)
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Dec 29 2009, 12:33 AM
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Hi ladies,
Well after getting my hair trimmed on the 27th Dec. (Sunday) its shorter than I wanted. I'm now going to make a SUPREME effort to let it grow for a while. I had an inch cut off so I know it has NO SPLIT ENDS.
This is going to be a new year and I want to try harder to beat this OCD. I want to be fit and healthy and be the best person I can be.
Recently I have just been so depressed about my hair obsession/cutting that it was just the last drop to make me understand how deep I have sunk, remember all the goals I had and how they would slowly vanish when my OCD madness took over.
I'm going to seek professional help and I hope I'll be able to get myself sorted out.
I'm going to a support group for people with OCD and BDD on the 6th January. I have never been to a support group before but I think it will be a step in the right direction. I am trying to get an appointment with my specialist so I can get a referral to a psychiatrist and hopefully some better help with medication. It's a bad time of year though, as my specialist is on holiday but I should be able to get an appointment soon. In the meantime I am just trying to relax and there is an OCD counselling helpline that I'm able to call.
Hubby is home from work for holidays until the 11th Jan. After that he goes back to work. I am trying to enjoy spending some time with him while he is home.
To all the regulars here, thank you for posting and keeping the thread here going. Your posts really do make a difference to peoples lives and I am grateful.
Well done to everyone for getting through Xmas day.
This post has been edited by little_lee: Dec 29 2009, 12:35 AM
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"Life is not measured by
the number of breaths we take,
but by the moments
that take our breath away."
A diamond with a flaw is better than a common stone that is perfect.
- Chinese Proverb
Aim for success, not perfection. Never give up your right to be wrong, because then you will lose the ability to learn new things and move forward with your life. Remember that fear always lurks behind perfectionism. Confronting your fears and allowing yourself the right to be human can, paradoxically, make yourself a happier and more productive person.
- Dr. David M. Burns
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 Dec 29 2009, 04:53 AM
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QUOTE (little_lee @ Dec 29 2009, 12:33 AM) Hi ladies,
Well after getting my hair trimmed on the 27th Dec. (Sunday) its shorter than I wanted. I'm now going to make a SUPREME effort to let it grow for a while. I had an inch cut off so I know it has NO SPLIT ENDS.
This is going to be a new year and I want to try harder to beat this OCD. I want to be fit and healthy and be the best person I can be.
Recently I have just been so depressed about my hair obsession/cutting that it was just the last drop to make me understand how deep I have sunk, remember all the goals I had and how they would slowly vanish when my OCD madness took over.
I'm going to seek professional help and I hope I'll be able to get myself sorted out.
I'm going to a support group for people with OCD and BDD on the 6th January. I have never been to a support group before but I think it will be a step in the right direction. I am trying to get an appointment with my specialist so I can get a referral to a psychiatrist and hopefully some better help with medication. It's a bad time of year though, as my specialist is on holiday but I should be able to get an appointment soon. In the meantime I am just trying to relax and there is an OCD counselling helpline that I'm able to call.
Hubby is home from work for holidays until the 11th Jan. After that he goes back to work. I am trying to enjoy spending some time with him while he is home.
To all the regulars here, thank you for posting and keeping the thread here going. Your posts really do make a difference to peoples lives and I am grateful.
Well done to everyone for getting through Xmas day. I think you are making an excellent step in the right direction. I am so sorry that Christmas was so tough for you. I read that many people with BDD are undiagnosed because instead of seeking medical help, the keep trying to "fix" the flaw that they are focused on cosmetically (i.e. cutting) but all that really does is keeps on feeding the ocd and bdd. You are doing the right thing. Please keep us posted on how it is going. I have actually been doing pretty well lately. I am only allowing myself about 15 mins on my hair each morning and whatever it looks like after that is what it is. I don't have any hand mirrors to focus on the back anymore and I am trying to look at myself with the whole picture and not just zeroing in on my hair. I definetly think the medication has kicked in because I am feeling more like myself. It has been over a week since I have even put a scissor to my hair and that also makes me feel pretty good. Every day is a milestone. I am taking everything one day at a time. For me Christmas helped cause it was a distraction. I also do alot better when my husband is home but he went back to work yesterday, and it is the days that I am home with the kids and my thoughts that are the hardest. But I am trying to take my ocd energy and use it to clean my house. I don't know if it is working but my shower has never been cleaner!
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Dec 29 2009, 06:59 PM
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QUOTE (jilo77 @ Dec 29 2009, 07:53 PM) QUOTE (little_lee @ Dec 29 2009, 12:33 AM) Hi ladies,
Well after getting my hair trimmed on the 27th Dec. (Sunday) its shorter than I wanted. I'm now going to make a SUPREME effort to let it grow for a while. I had an inch cut off so I know it has NO SPLIT ENDS.
This is going to be a new year and I want to try harder to beat this OCD. I want to be fit and healthy and be the best person I can be.
Recently I have just been so depressed about my hair obsession/cutting that it was just the last drop to make me understand how deep I have sunk, remember all the goals I had and how they would slowly vanish when my OCD madness took over.
I'm going to seek professional help and I hope I'll be able to get myself sorted out.
I'm going to a support group for people with OCD and BDD on the 6th January. I have never been to a support group before but I think it will be a step in the right direction. I am trying to get an appointment with my specialist so I can get a referral to a psychiatrist and hopefully some better help with medication. It's a bad time of year though, as my specialist is on holiday but I should be able to get an appointment soon. In the meantime I am just trying to relax and there is an OCD counselling helpline that I'm able to call.
Hubby is home from work for holidays until the 11th Jan. After that he goes back to work. I am trying to enjoy spending some time with him while he is home.
To all the regulars here, thank you for posting and keeping the thread here going. Your posts really do make a difference to peoples lives and I am grateful.
Well done to everyone for getting through Xmas day. I think you are making an excellent step in the right direction. I am so sorry that Christmas was so tough for you. I read that many people with BDD are undiagnosed because instead of seeking medical help, the keep trying to "fix" the flaw that they are focused on cosmetically (i.e. cutting) but all that really does is keeps on feeding the ocd and bdd. You are doing the right thing. Please keep us posted on how it is going. I have actually been doing pretty well lately. I am only allowing myself about 15 mins on my hair each morning and whatever it looks like after that is what it is. I don't have any hand mirrors to focus on the back anymore and I am trying to look at myself with the whole picture and not just zeroing in on my hair. I definetly think the medication has kicked in because I am feeling more like myself. It has been over a week since I have even put a scissor to my hair and that also makes me feel pretty good. Every day is a milestone. I am taking everything one day at a time. For me Christmas helped cause it was a distraction. I also do alot better when my husband is home but he went back to work yesterday, and it is the days that I am home with the kids and my thoughts that are the hardest. But I am trying to take my ocd energy and use it to clean my house. I don't know if it is working but my shower has never been cleaner! I'm so pleased for you Jilo. It's great to hear you had a nice xmas. I'm so glad you're feeling better. Woot woot! Yeah xmas was tough. I'm glad its over. I'll be even happier when new years eve is over too. Just tired of the hype. I have a sore throat at the moment so I feel a little bit run down. Just resting at home trying to relax.
This post has been edited by little_lee: Dec 29 2009, 07:00 PM
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"Life is not measured by
the number of breaths we take,
but by the moments
that take our breath away."
A diamond with a flaw is better than a common stone that is perfect.
- Chinese Proverb
Aim for success, not perfection. Never give up your right to be wrong, because then you will lose the ability to learn new things and move forward with your life. Remember that fear always lurks behind perfectionism. Confronting your fears and allowing yourself the right to be human can, paradoxically, make yourself a happier and more productive person.
- Dr. David M. Burns
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Dec 30 2009, 12:51 PM
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Well, my good streak ended yesterday and I picked up a mirror for the first time in a week and saw the back of my hair. Then I found where my husband hid the scissors and you know how the rest of the story goes. Didn't totally mess it up but of course it doesn't look any better or more even than before and all I am left with is a feeling of utter failure. He took them away again and I am getting rid of all scissors in the house cause as you know, we find a way to cut with anything. I have to say that I am truly blessed to have a totally supportive and caring husband. He never mocks me or makes me feel stupid about my condition. Every day he tells me that today will be a good day and reminds me of all of our blessings. I found an ocd anon. group that meets next Friday. It is a 12 step program and covers many types of ocd including bdd. I think I am going to check it out. I hope you are all doing better than me at the moment. Happy new year!
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 Dec 30 2009, 06:26 PM
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QUOTE (jilo77 @ Dec 31 2009, 03:51 AM) Well, my good streak ended yesterday and I picked up a mirror for the first time in a week and saw the back of my hair. Then I found where my husband hid the scissors and you know how the rest of the story goes. Didn't totally mess it up but of course it doesn't look any better or more even than before and all I am left with is a feeling of utter failure. He took them away again and I am getting rid of all scissors in the house cause as you know, we find a way to cut with anything. I have to say that I am truly blessed to have a totally supportive and caring husband. He never mocks me or makes me feel stupid about my condition. Every day he tells me that today will be a good day and reminds me of all of our blessings. I found an ocd anon. group that meets next Friday. It is a 12 step program and covers many types of ocd including bdd. I think I am going to check it out. I hope you are all doing better than me at the moment. Happy new year! Go to the OCD group. I'm going to one on the 6th january. I can't wait to go and talk with others who have OCD and see how they cope. I'm sorry you cut again, I know how ****** devastating it is. Your hubby sounds like a saint. Very lucky to have such a supportive and kind hubby. Happy New Year to all
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"Life is not measured by
the number of breaths we take,
but by the moments
that take our breath away."
A diamond with a flaw is better than a common stone that is perfect.
- Chinese Proverb
Aim for success, not perfection. Never give up your right to be wrong, because then you will lose the ability to learn new things and move forward with your life. Remember that fear always lurks behind perfectionism. Confronting your fears and allowing yourself the right to be human can, paradoxically, make yourself a happier and more productive person.
- Dr. David M. Burns
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Jan 1 2010, 11:36 AM
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QUOTE (little_lee @ Dec 30 2009, 07:26 PM) QUOTE (jilo77 @ Dec 31 2009, 03:51 AM) Well, my good streak ended yesterday and I picked up a mirror for the first time in a week and saw the back of my hair. Then I found where my husband hid the scissors and you know how the rest of the story goes. Didn't totally mess it up but of course it doesn't look any better or more even than before and all I am left with is a feeling of utter failure. He took them away again and I am getting rid of all scissors in the house cause as you know, we find a way to cut with anything. I have to say that I am truly blessed to have a totally supportive and caring husband. He never mocks me or makes me feel stupid about my condition. Every day he tells me that today will be a good day and reminds me of all of our blessings. I found an ocd anon. group that meets next Friday. It is a 12 step program and covers many types of ocd including bdd. I think I am going to check it out. I hope you are all doing better than me at the moment. Happy new year! Go to the OCD group. I'm going to one on the 6th january. I can't wait to go and talk with others who have OCD and see how they cope. I'm sorry you cut again, I know how ****** devastating it is. Your hubby sounds like a saint. Very lucky to have such a supportive and kind hubby. Happy New Year to all
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Jan 1 2010, 12:11 PM
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hey all...im new to this forum. i have bdd with my hair as well...have had it for a little less than a year now. freda, the same thing happened to me. I had hair down to my chin but analyzed it so much that i cut too much off the sides and it ended up being that the sides were to the middle of my ear. it grew out again and the same thing happened...back to square one. my advice to you...do not cut anymore hair off the sides or anywhere else. go to a salon...have them fix it if it looks absolutely terrible. if its manageable just leave as is. bdd really is awful...esp with hair. its like whatever you do you think your fixing it but just making it worse. well, i know what my new years resolution is. never pick up a scissor again. lets see it i can do it.
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Jan 2 2010, 04:30 PM
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Wow! I can't believe that someone besides ME has this compulsive haircutting thing!!!! I totally obsess about my hair, and in the quest for perfection, I've repeatedly -- like for over a decade -- cut my own hair a good bit shorter than I had planned, even though I LOVE long hair, and feel jealous of those w/ long, beautiful hair, and am supposedly always trying to grow my hair out!!! Apparently, I'm not alone in the world!!! WooHoo!!! You don't know what a relief that is!!!!!!!
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Jan 2 2010, 08:45 PM
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i felt the same way and then i found out there are others out there. i never hear anyone talk about this kind of thing....i dont even tell my freinds or family about my issue because i find it embarrassing. im trying real hard to never let it happen again for good this time. i cant believe how many people have this issue....i would have never known if it wasnt for google.
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Jan 3 2010, 12:40 AM
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Hi ladies,
Well I was doing some reading today about BDD and OCD. I came across this advice -
"When you get the urge to cut your hair, before you submit yourself to the scissors, ask yourself how you want to look in six months or a year from now. If the honest answer is, 'I want to have beautiful, long hair', skip the hair cut in favor of a conditioning treatment."
I thought that was good advice. I have a chin length bob and its all one length. I recently had it cut and have been worrying ever since that its not even, not perfectly one length, even though everyone tells me it is. Today I asked my husband if it was the same length all the way around AGAIN and he said 'why don't you try and grow it instead of having such a precise cut that needs to be perfect? It's too much stress on you'. Grow it longer and go for a more relaxed style that doesn't have to be cut so perfectly'. I agree what he's saying sounds logical. So I am going to try real hard to not cut for a while.
So this is where I'm at right now. I'm going to the support group on wednesday.
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"Life is not measured by
the number of breaths we take,
but by the moments
that take our breath away."
A diamond with a flaw is better than a common stone that is perfect.
- Chinese Proverb
Aim for success, not perfection. Never give up your right to be wrong, because then you will lose the ability to learn new things and move forward with your life. Remember that fear always lurks behind perfectionism. Confronting your fears and allowing yourself the right to be human can, paradoxically, make yourself a happier and more productive person.
- Dr. David M. Burns
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Jan 3 2010, 01:50 PM
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little lee,
I understand what you mean about aiming for a less precise haircut. I have had SOME success in growing out my hair from last years super short precision graduated bob cut recently by going for a deliberately less structured "shag" cut --- using "point cutting" as opposed to blunt cutting for a slightly choppier look. Aiming for something deliberately less precise w/ more variation is harder to mess up, and harder to obsess over. I'm aiming for shoulder length hair w/ some soft layers.
It is odd to me that I have this haircutting compulsion flaring up at this point in life. 10 years ago, I had hair almost down to my waist which I was VERY protective of. I'm not sure exactly where this inability to stop cutting my hair came from, though I certainly had childhood "hair" issues which I could blame. Now, it seems that getting even to shoulder length is tough for me. *sigh* I gave my scissors to my husband and told him not to return them until Feb., when I plan a supervised bang and front face framing layer trim!!!!
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Jan 3 2010, 07:47 PM
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QUOTE (galeforcewinds @ Jan 4 2010, 04:50 AM) little lee,
I understand what you mean about aiming for a less precise haircut. I have had SOME success in growing out my hair from last years super short precision graduated bob cut recently by going for a deliberately less structured "shag" cut --- using "point cutting" as opposed to blunt cutting for a slightly choppier look. Aiming for something deliberately less precise w/ more variation is harder to mess up, and harder to obsess over. I'm aiming for shoulder length hair w/ some soft layers.
It is odd to me that I have this haircutting compulsion flaring up at this point in life. 10 years ago, I had hair almost down to my waist which I was VERY protective of. I'm not sure exactly where this inability to stop cutting my hair came from, though I certainly had childhood "hair" issues which I could blame. Now, it seems that getting even to shoulder length is tough for me. *sigh* I gave my scissors to my husband and told him not to return them until Feb., when I plan a supervised bang and front face framing layer trim!!!! Yup, I know exactly what you're saying. My ideal would be shoulder length with long layers too. But I've been stuck at either slightly above chin length or chin length for ****** years now. I can't seem to grow it past chin length because of the haircutting compulsion and fear of split ends. I'm tired of this precise bob cut I have, but at the same time obsessed with the even-ness of it. It's ridiculous. There's no doubt that a less structured cut would be better, but the problem is I have to let it grow out before I can get to something I'd be happy with. Because I don't want to go shorter. I already feel its too short. *Sigh* Always stuck between a rock and a hard place eh?
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"Life is not measured by
the number of breaths we take,
but by the moments
that take our breath away."
A diamond with a flaw is better than a common stone that is perfect.
- Chinese Proverb
Aim for success, not perfection. Never give up your right to be wrong, because then you will lose the ability to learn new things and move forward with your life. Remember that fear always lurks behind perfectionism. Confronting your fears and allowing yourself the right to be human can, paradoxically, make yourself a happier and more productive person.
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Jan 4 2010, 08:50 AM
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Hi Freda123,
I'm very sorry to hear what you've done to yourself/hair.
Just keep strong and listen to some of the great advice these girls on here have to offer.
Its good to feel not alone.
Sorry about your hair again but we all know at the very least that its growing at the time. Just think that in a fw months your hair WILL be longer and nice if you just leave it alone.
I wish the best for you during this difficult time.
And little_lee it was just one split end and you got it. I'm sorry the obsession for evenness gets in the way of you seeing yourself better and being able to get your hair where you want it. Take care
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Jan 4 2010, 12:56 PM
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I also have issues w/ hair color. I colored my hair for years due to some premature gray hair. Anyway, like a week after I colored, I would start to OBSESS about the roots possibly showing, even though realistically, there wasn't THAT much gray hair that could have shown....I don't have that high of a percentage of gray....I'm 34! I would think that everyone was constantly staring at my roots. I've since stopped coloring my hair, and am stopping my hair color obsession now that I have a good percentage of my natural color showing. I'm not fond of the gray, but it beats the heck out of worrying that "roots" could possibly be showing....I'd rather just have the gray than the imperfection of roots that show!
I am proud of myself for keeping my most recent trim on Saturday reasonable. IF I can keep on doing what I'm doing, I should have the shoulder length hair that I want by next year. I really, really hope I can stay away from any major chops. I get a huge endorphin rush "high" from them, but then feel absolutely TERRIBLE afterwards, to the point of not wanting to face people because my chopped off hair doesn't reflect the real me. Even if my post cut, short hair looks GOOD, I'm somehow STILL ashamed of what I've done, which doesn't really make sense at all.
How long have all of you been obsessing about your hair, and do you think anything in particular triggered it?
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Jan 4 2010, 05:54 PM
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QUOTE (galeforcewinds @ Jan 5 2010, 03:56 AM) I also have issues w/ hair color. I colored my hair for years due to some premature gray hair. Anyway, like a week after I colored, I would start to OBSESS about the roots possibly showing, even though realistically, there wasn't THAT much gray hair that could have shown....I don't have that high of a percentage of gray....I'm 34! I would think that everyone was constantly staring at my roots. I've since stopped coloring my hair, and am stopping my hair color obsession now that I have a good percentage of my natural color showing. I'm not fond of the gray, but it beats the heck out of worrying that "roots" could possibly be showing....I'd rather just have the gray than the imperfection of roots that show!
I am proud of myself for keeping my most recent trim on Saturday reasonable. IF I can keep on doing what I'm doing, I should have the shoulder length hair that I want by next year. I really, really hope I can stay away from any major chops. I get a huge endorphin rush "high" from them, but then feel absolutely TERRIBLE afterwards, to the point of not wanting to face people because my chopped off hair doesn't reflect the real me. Even if my post cut, short hair looks GOOD, I'm somehow STILL ashamed of what I've done, which doesn't really make sense at all.
How long have all of you been obsessing about your hair, and do you think anything in particular triggered it? Gale - a psychologist I saw told me its not useful to look back and wonder WHY I started doing this. The focus needs to be on HOW to STOP doing it and dealing with it now that its here. Who knows what triggered it? I used to do this all the time too - sit there trying to work out what could have possibly started all this hair obsession madness. Until the psychologist pointed out to me that looking for answers to that isn't going to help me now and is a waste of energy - chances are it wasn't triggered by one single thing, stuff like this often progresses gradually and then just snowballs. And we find ourselves here. Suxs, I know...personally the whole thing just depresses me because I feel helpless. This xmas holidays has been awful, I've been in a depressed state for about a month. I have no idea why. I just go through these phases. Maybe its the holidays, and having more time on my hands and no routine makes it all worse?? I swore I was going to try and make xmas better this year and it was a disaster. Oh well. I guess I can always try again next year. Shoulder length hair by next year? Wow! I wish I was that close to my hair goal. Keep on trying. Yes, cutting makes you feel better, however that feeling is temporary. Extremely temporary. All this just makes me so sad. The needless mental suffering we are all going through. The fact our lives are passing us by while we are obsessing about/cutting our hair. ***. This has to stop. I don't know how, but I'm exhausted and life is not normal for me anymore. I can't wait to get to this support group on wednesday night to see if others are in the same boat and what the heck they're doing to cope.
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but by the moments
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A diamond with a flaw is better than a common stone that is perfect.
- Chinese Proverb
Aim for success, not perfection. Never give up your right to be wrong, because then you will lose the ability to learn new things and move forward with your life. Remember that fear always lurks behind perfectionism. Confronting your fears and allowing yourself the right to be human can, paradoxically, make yourself a happier and more productive person.
- Dr. David M. Burns
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Jan 4 2010, 08:02 PM
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By the way, this -- along w/ some compulsive skin picking -- is one of the things I've never had the nerve to share w/ my therapist. I've shared a LOT of personal stuff w/ him, but somehow this just seems so WEIRD that I don't have the nerve to go there, even though I know it is his job to deal w/ this sort of stuff. How many of you have shared this w/ your therapist, and how did they react?
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Jan 4 2010, 08:24 PM
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QUOTE (galeforcewinds @ Jan 5 2010, 11:02 AM) By the way, this -- along w/ some compulsive skin picking -- is one of the things I've never had the nerve to share w/ my therapist. I've shared a LOT of personal stuff w/ him, but somehow this just seems so WEIRD that I don't have the nerve to go there, even though I know it is his job to deal w/ this sort of stuff. How many of you have shared this w/ your therapist, and how did they react? I told him all about my haircutting and my obsessions with my hair. He didn't look shocked at all, no reaction, didn't bat an eyelid - I think these therapists have heard it all, nothing surprises them anymore. If you don't tell them, you're not even giving them a chance to help you. Last night I found a picture of what I want my hair to look like online - it was a cut Jennifer Love Hewitt has had. I printed it out and have stuck it on my dressing table mirror where I can see it. Every time I get the urge to cut I'm going to use the picture as motivation - no cutting if you want it to look like that. Do you have a picture of a celeb that has hair you'd love to have? Maybe print it out and refer to it when you're feeling down. I think its good to have a goal.
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"Life is not measured by
the number of breaths we take,
but by the moments
that take our breath away."
A diamond with a flaw is better than a common stone that is perfect.
- Chinese Proverb
Aim for success, not perfection. Never give up your right to be wrong, because then you will lose the ability to learn new things and move forward with your life. Remember that fear always lurks behind perfectionism. Confronting your fears and allowing yourself the right to be human can, paradoxically, make yourself a happier and more productive person.
- Dr. David M. Burns
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Jan 4 2010, 08:31 PM
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QUOTE (CanadianBrook @ Jan 4 2010, 11:50 PM) Hi Freda123,
I'm very sorry to hear what you've done to yourself/hair.
Just keep strong and listen to some of the great advice these girls on here have to offer.
Its good to feel not alone.
Sorry about your hair again but we all know at the very least that its growing at the time. Just think that in a fw months your hair WILL be longer and nice if you just leave it alone.
I wish the best for you during this difficult time.
And little_lee it was just one split end and you got it. I'm sorry the obsession for evenness gets in the way of you seeing yourself better and being able to get your hair where you want it. Take care Thanks for your support Brook. Please refer to my post below. Today I washed my hair with my favourite shampoo and conditioner and put a little makeup on. I feel a little bit more human now. Me and hubby are going to go and do some shopping (there are some DVDS we want to buy) and then get fish and chips for dinner and go for a walk along the beach. I might take my shoes off and just go for a little paddle just because I love the ocean salt water. Because I've been in this pathetic mood for a month poor hubby hasn't gotten any action in the bedroom at all so I'll try and get that back on track tonight (sorry if that's too much information but we're all ladies here anyways). The problem with this OCD is that it filters through to all other areas of your life - its hard but I'm going to try and dig myself out of this hole I've been in since the start of Dec. I've been a crappy wife and I feel guilty.
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"Life is not measured by
the number of breaths we take,
but by the moments
that take our breath away."
A diamond with a flaw is better than a common stone that is perfect.
- Chinese Proverb
Aim for success, not perfection. Never give up your right to be wrong, because then you will lose the ability to learn new things and move forward with your life. Remember that fear always lurks behind perfectionism. Confronting your fears and allowing yourself the right to be human can, paradoxically, make yourself a happier and more productive person.
- Dr. David M. Burns
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Jan 4 2010, 09:51 PM
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Good luck with putting the romance back into your marriage. My ocd can seriously get in the way with my relationship too.
I sure hope you enjoyed the ocean and had a nice time with hubby. You need a break.
Good luck!
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Jan 5 2010, 02:42 AM
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QUOTE (CanadianBrook @ Jan 5 2010, 12:51 PM) Good luck with putting the romance back into your marriage. My ocd can seriously get in the way with my relationship too.
I sure hope you enjoyed the ocean and had a nice time with hubby. You need a break.
Good luck!
=D Back. I washed my hair this morning then hubby and I went to the shops, got the DVD's, then went to the beach. Hubby went for a swim and I just stood at the shore with no shoes on and enjoyed the sun and smell of the beach - I'm too scared to go in the water because I'm worried the salt water will damage my hair. So I either sit on a beach towel on the sand or just stand at the shore and watch hubby in the water. It was windy as all hell and I had my hair half up half down with a clip. My hair was so knotty when I got home and brushed it. That made me a bit paranoid that the wind/sand had damaged it. But I'm trying to put that out of my mind. I brushed the knots out and tied it up. Do you think the wind/sand at the beach could have damaged it??? I don't want to be so paranoid that I can't even go and stand at the beach. I washed my hair this morning.
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"Life is not measured by
the number of breaths we take,
but by the moments
that take our breath away."
A diamond with a flaw is better than a common stone that is perfect.
- Chinese Proverb
Aim for success, not perfection. Never give up your right to be wrong, because then you will lose the ability to learn new things and move forward with your life. Remember that fear always lurks behind perfectionism. Confronting your fears and allowing yourself the right to be human can, paradoxically, make yourself a happier and more productive person.
- Dr. David M. Burns
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Jan 5 2010, 07:26 AM
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QUOTE (little_lee @ Jan 5 2010, 02:42 AM) QUOTE (CanadianBrook @ Jan 5 2010, 12:51 PM) Good luck with putting the romance back into your marriage. My ocd can seriously get in the way with my relationship too.
I sure hope you enjoyed the ocean and had a nice time with hubby. You need a break.
Good luck!
=D Back. I washed my hair this morning then hubby and I went to the shops, got the DVD's, then went to the beach. Hubby went for a swim and I just stood at the shore with no shoes on and enjoyed the sun and smell of the beach - I'm too scared to go in the water because I'm worried the salt water will damage my hair. So I either sit on a beach towel on the sand or just stand at the shore and watch hubby in the water. It was windy as all hell and I had my hair half up half down with a clip. My hair was so knotty when I got home and brushed it. That made me a bit paranoid that the wind/sand had damaged it. But I'm trying to put that out of my mind. I brushed the knots out and tied it up. Do you think the wind/sand at the beach could have damaged it??? I don't want to be so paranoid that I can't even go and stand at the beach. I washed my hair this morning. I am a hairstylists and I can tell you that the best way to get rid of knots is to always use a wide tooth comb or pick. If the hair is really knotty, you can go right into the shower and use conditioner to help take the knots out without damaging your hair. Hair is pretty tough, so I doubt any damage was done by the beach. Maybe give yourself a good conditioning treatment and that will help put your mind at ease. Glad you had a nice night with your hubby!
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Jan 5 2010, 08:23 AM
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QUOTE (jilo77 @ Jan 5 2010, 10:26 PM) QUOTE (little_lee @ Jan 5 2010, 02:42 AM) QUOTE (CanadianBrook @ Jan 5 2010, 12:51 PM) Good luck with putting the romance back into your marriage. My ocd can seriously get in the way with my relationship too.
I sure hope you enjoyed the ocean and had a nice time with hubby. You need a break.
Good luck!
=D Back. I washed my hair this morning then hubby and I went to the shops, got the DVD's, then went to the beach. Hubby went for a swim and I just stood at the shore with no shoes on and enjoyed the sun and smell of the beach - I'm too scared to go in the water because I'm worried the salt water will damage my hair. So I either sit on a beach towel on the sand or just stand at the shore and watch hubby in the water. It was windy as all hell and I had my hair half up half down with a clip. My hair was so knotty when I got home and brushed it. That made me a bit paranoid that the wind/sand had damaged it. But I'm trying to put that out of my mind. I brushed the knots out and tied it up. Do you think the wind/sand at the beach could have damaged it??? I don't want to be so paranoid that I can't even go and stand at the beach. I washed my hair this morning. I am a hairstylists and I can tell you that the best way to get rid of knots is to always use a wide tooth comb or pick. If the hair is really knotty, you can go right into the shower and use conditioner to help take the knots out without damaging your hair. Hair is pretty tough, so I doubt any damage was done by the beach. Maybe give yourself a good conditioning treatment and that will help put your mind at ease. Glad you had a nice night with your hubby! Well I used a big paddle brush. After I wash my hair I do use a wide tooth detangling comb on it. I will do a deep conditioning treatment on it next time I wash it, which will be Thursday morning. I'd say it was the strong wind that caused the tangles. I did brush carefully though and only had it trimmed recently on 27th December at the hairdresser.
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"Life is not measured by
the number of breaths we take,
but by the moments
that take our breath away."
A diamond with a flaw is better than a common stone that is perfect.
- Chinese Proverb
Aim for success, not perfection. Never give up your right to be wrong, because then you will lose the ability to learn new things and move forward with your life. Remember that fear always lurks behind perfectionism. Confronting your fears and allowing yourself the right to be human can, paradoxically, make yourself a happier and more productive person.
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Jan 5 2010, 10:01 AM
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As far as I'm concerned I have mostly accepted that my hair is being damaged at all times simply by just being alive on earth. *sigh*
I have a few rules. Do not look into the mirror first thing in the morning. Have hair brushed and pulled back before looking. As well, I wash my hair every second day and I keep it layered without giving any attention(well a little) to the uneven ends.
The only time I was ever able to grow my hair out long was during a big stay out in the bush in an old one room school house. All I did was write everyday and study. I prolly dint even look into the mirror more than ten times that whole year. Boy when I did look I just saw ugly. Either way despite the how I did it, I nonetheless did and I'm proud to have had long hair once.
Right now the color has faded significantly and I'm just twiddling my thumbs til I decide if I do anything. Big rule: when in doubt do nothing.
Sounds easy. I use extreme will to do NOTHING when in doubt. Now just imagine what I actually DO get done with this doubters disease :)
Also I have to throw this one out. We wear a lot of caps around here in Canada, eh? And so that calways makes it a bit easy to ignore hair =D
Love to all. I hope nobody is doing anything to traumatize themselves.
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Jan 5 2010, 01:22 PM
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Well, I broke my new years resolution and it is only Jan 5th. I found some scissors I had hid and began a mini cutting session. I hate being a prisoner to my hair. I hate feeling like a failure and spending so much time fixated on my hair instead of being with my kids. The ironic thing is, when I step back and really look at my hair it doesn't look that bad. My husband and my mother both love the way it looks. It is a little below my chin layered graduated bob. I think it looks too layered and too choppy. But cutting it more is only making it worse. I wish I was never a hairstylist because I think it makes it worse since I think I can cut it myself. Last year I had hair halfway down my back. The funny thing is my husband didn't like it like that at all. He prefers it short so he is no help. I have thrown away the scissors and am trying to forgive myself for failing yet again. I am planning on going to the bdd/ocd anon on Friday so maybe I can get some help from others who are suffereing like we are. Time for a new resolution. Put the scissors down and be a better wife/mommy. Realize that hair is not something worth losing myself over and that there are plenty of people dealing with much bigger issues. Count my blessings, be glad for all the good I have in my life and get over this obsession. If only it were that easy....
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Jan 5 2010, 07:26 PM
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QUOTE (CanadianBrook @ Jan 6 2010, 01:01 AM) As far as I'm concerned I have mostly accepted that my hair is being damaged at all times simply by just being alive on earth. *sigh*
I have a few rules. Do not look into the mirror first thing in the morning. Have hair brushed and pulled back before looking. As well, I wash my hair every second day and I keep it layered without giving any attention(well a little) to the uneven ends.
The only time I was ever able to grow my hair out long was during a big stay out in the bush in an old one room school house. All I did was write everyday and study. I prolly dint even look into the mirror more than ten times that whole year. Boy when I did look I just saw ugly. Either way despite the how I did it, I nonetheless did and I'm proud to have had long hair once.
Right now the color has faded significantly and I'm just twiddling my thumbs til I decide if I do anything. Big rule: when in doubt do nothing.
Sounds easy. I use extreme will to do NOTHING when in doubt. Now just imagine what I actually DO get done with this doubters disease :)
Also I have to throw this one out. We wear a lot of caps around here in Canada, eh? And so that calways makes it a bit easy to ignore hair =D
Love to all. I hope nobody is doing anything to traumatize themselves. I literally find the thought of my hair being damaged or having split ends UNBEARABLE.
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"Life is not measured by
the number of breaths we take,
but by the moments
that take our breath away."
A diamond with a flaw is better than a common stone that is perfect.
- Chinese Proverb
Aim for success, not perfection. Never give up your right to be wrong, because then you will lose the ability to learn new things and move forward with your life. Remember that fear always lurks behind perfectionism. Confronting your fears and allowing yourself the right to be human can, paradoxically, make yourself a happier and more productive person.
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QUOTE (jilo77 @ Jan 6 2010, 04:22 AM) Well, I broke my new years resolution and it is only Jan 5th. I found some scissors I had hid and began a mini cutting session. I hate being a prisoner to my hair. I hate feeling like a failure and spending so much time fixated on my hair instead of being with my kids. The ironic thing is, when I step back and really look at my hair it doesn't look that bad. My husband and my mother both love the way it looks. It is a little below my chin layered graduated bob. I think it looks too layered and too choppy. But cutting it more is only making it worse. I wish I was never a hairstylist because I think it makes it worse since I think I can cut it myself. Last year I had hair halfway down my back. The funny thing is my husband didn't like it like that at all. He prefers it short so he is no help. I have thrown away the scissors and am trying to forgive myself for failing yet again. I am planning on going to the bdd/ocd anon on Friday so maybe I can get some help from others who are suffereing like we are. Time for a new resolution. Put the scissors down and be a better wife/mommy. Realize that hair is not something worth losing myself over and that there are plenty of people dealing with much bigger issues. Count my blessings, be glad for all the good I have in my life and get over this obsession. If only it were that easy.... Let us know how the meeting goes. I'm going to the OCD support group tonight, hubby is taking me. Can you believe I'm even worried about what people will think of my hair there? Crazy. I'm going to tie it up in a ponytail and try to forget about it. I'm not there to be judged on my looks. I'm still a bit stressed about my hair after going to the beach. But I'm trying to let that go and tell myself 'no it didn't do any damage or cause any split ends, stop being silly'. Easier said than done though eh?
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"Life is not measured by
the number of breaths we take,
but by the moments
that take our breath away."
A diamond with a flaw is better than a common stone that is perfect.
- Chinese Proverb
Aim for success, not perfection. Never give up your right to be wrong, because then you will lose the ability to learn new things and move forward with your life. Remember that fear always lurks behind perfectionism. Confronting your fears and allowing yourself the right to be human can, paradoxically, make yourself a happier and more productive person.
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Little lee- how did your meeting go??
Anyway, I thought it might be good to do a roll call for those who are interested. We are all struggling together and thought maybe it would be nice to hear a little more about eachother. My name is Jessica and I live in New Jersey. I am 32 years old and a stay at home mom to my 3 sons. I was once a hairdresser so this struggle with my hair is not fun since I have it in my head that I can do my own hair. I have been married 10 years to a very supportive husband. I have struggled with ocd all my life and it runs in my family. My father has ocd and my sister has bdd This hair thing started almost exactly a year ago. I had hair down my back and went to get it cut by a friend of mine. I hated the way she cut it. Well, I couldn't stop fixing it ever since and it is now a chin length layered bob. I have done really good today not looking at it and keeping busy. This place has made me feel less of a freak cause i never realized that anyone else would share this obsession. It is one of the hardest things I have ever tried to battle and also, one of the most embarrassing. I know that if I share it that people will just think I am vain or too preoccupied with my looks. But the truth is, I think I have such a low self image. Thank you all for listening and letting me vent. IT is very therapuetic for me.
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QUOTE (jilo77 @ Jan 7 2010, 04:04 AM) Little lee- how did your meeting go??
Anyway, I thought it might be good to do a roll call for those who are interested. We are all struggling together and thought maybe it would be nice to hear a little more about eachother. My name is Jessica and I live in New Jersey. I am 32 years old and a stay at home mom to my 3 sons. I was once a hairdresser so this struggle with my hair is not fun since I have it in my head that I can do my own hair. I have been married 10 years to a very supportive husband. I have struggled with ocd all my life and it runs in my family. My father has ocd and my sister has bdd This hair thing started almost exactly a year ago. I had hair down my back and went to get it cut by a friend of mine. I hated the way she cut it. Well, I couldn't stop fixing it ever since and it is now a chin length layered bob. I have done really good today not looking at it and keeping busy. This place has made me feel less of a freak cause i never realized that anyone else would share this obsession. It is one of the hardest things I have ever tried to battle and also, one of the most embarrassing. I know that if I share it that people will just think I am vain or too preoccupied with my looks. But the truth is, I think I have such a low self image. Thank you all for listening and letting me vent. IT is very therapuetic for me. My name is Lee, I'm 28 (turning 29 this Feb, and not looking forward to that either!) and I'm from Melbourne, Australia. I've been married for 4 yrs. No kids. We have a cat named Jessica who is a tabby. I am a shopaholic, if I see anything fashionable, I just have to get it! I am crazy about handbags (I'm a total Kathy Van Zeeland addict) shoes, and lipgloss! The meeting *sigh*. I was disappointed. Only 3 people showed up. The only good thing that came out of it I think was that hubby came along and got to hear these other people suffering from OCD talk about their experience. It has helped open up his eyes and made him more patient with me. I really wanted to see how people were coping with their obsessive thoughts. But the only answer people gave was 'OCD, yeah its crappy'. No one said 'my ocd problem is handwashing, haircutting etc'. I really felt like I get more info from you guys here and the OCD helpline I call. So I probably wouldn't go back. Or I might, but go to a meeting in a different location where there might be more people that go.
This post has been edited by little_lee: Jan 6 2010, 06:27 PM
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