I saw the pscyh and she is not sure whether I am grieving or depressed. As the symtoms can be similar she is thinking of putting me on something, just wondering what happens if I am not depressed and take medication?

Can she not do a Hamilton Depression Scale test (it's a questionnaire), or send you to a psychologist for one? I've no clue what happens with the ADs if you're not depressed. But a HAM-D test will show the severity and then she can take it from there.

I'm not an expert, but having dealt with both grief and depression, my feeling is that, if you are grieving, you will continue to grieve, and hopefully, process that grief over time until you come to some measure of acceptance and peace with your loss.

If you are depressed, and the right medication is prescribed, you are likely to feel better (it may take as long as six weeks) after a while.

You may be experiencing both, in which case, it is possible that the medication will help you to deal with your grief - that is - not make it go away, but to better enable you to work through it. That is a very individual thing and I would never presume to tell someone, that they should be "over" something in a certain amount of time. Grieving takes however long it takes.

I hope this helps a little.

ks

She is a psychiatrist. Grieving over a child who has committed suicide does take a long time.

(((CrashandBurn))) oh I am so sorry. I have no advice, just hugs. I'm a mom and can only imagine.

Are you getting bereavement counseling and/or support?

Take care YOU.

First I was seeing a counsellor at work but this lady got burn out and left, so I saw a replacement counsellor and after seeing her I was more upset than before so I cancelled the next appointment. My work place is sending me to a psychiatrist.

Crash and Burn,

I am SOOOO sorry for what you are going through. I am proud of you though for taking all these forward steps despite what you have gone through. Please keep posting, and let us know what happens once you visit the psychiatrist. HUGS!

The psychiatrist is okay. This time I am not allowing myself to get too close or to tell her everything. I know that my work will not be paying for me to go forever. I am going on holidays in a couple of weeks and she asked if I wanted to see her while I was on holidays from work, I told her no as I want to stand on my own two feet, no matter how hard it is. I don't want to become dependant again. I want to be able to take it or leave it. With the other counsellor she was the only thing that was keeping me going from week to week I don't want that to happen again. The psych is not sure whether I am grieving or depressed. She brings up the topic of medication and then says I will discuss with you next week and then she never does.