When I think about it sometimes, I think it'd be cool to have my own house to decorate as I wish, cook what I want, and buy what I want. Then when I sit in my room and look around I start crying because all of it would have to go away. I'd be in a strange place with no one to talk to and nothing familiar. I'm starting my senior year in high school. And I'm scared that at the end I'll be moving out. I don't want to move out for a long time because I like the house I'm in, I love my cat, and I love my room. I feel like such a baby.

Hi DarkRain,

Your not a baby, you have a legit worry on your mind.

Your entering your last year of high school, and after that you will have to make some big choices in life. That is always scary thing to think about.

Moving away from home into your own place is an exciting and scary thing. I remember what it was like when I did it for the first time. I had some really awesome friends who wanted to get an apartment. Now keep in mind I lived with my folks for the entire 25 years of my life. It was an exciting thing, but what scared me was leaving the comfort of home. Also seeing my mom a little bummed out cause I was leaving, but later I learned she was a little glad I left. lol

I was scared to death the first few days I was away from home. I was homesick, I was worrying about things like would I have enough for my half of the bills, groceries, I missed talking to my parents, would I get on my friends nervers ( and sometimes we did lol ) But you know in the end, it was an awesome experience. We all had such a blast living together. Then my friends got married, and I got a place of my own, but I was ready to be on my own. Now I wouldn't have it any other way. LOL!!

Anyways, sorry didn't mean to ramble.

If you are really worried about moving out when out finish school, then talk to your parents. I know my parents didn't mind one bit with me living with them as long as I had a job. So just sit down and tell them how you feel. :-)

It is a very scary thought to be out on your own in this big world. Your still young, and you are used to your enviroment. Your room and all your things are comforting. That one place you are safe at from the world.

Hang in there DarkRain, and just take life one day at a time. No need to worry about moving out just yet.

Take care, and talk to us if you start feeling down again.

Dante~

This post has been edited by Dante 2599: Aug 8 2008, 01:15 AM

Darkrain,

Think about what you could do to make your new place like the one you currently live in. That may ease you into things. Can you possibly bring your kitty along with you? I bet that would really help you to not feel so lonely. If not, maybe you could get a new kitty. Having someone to take care of and love when you migrate to your new place could really help you warm up to your new lifestyle, it would be like an adventure that you could both go through together. I love kats myself and I got a new kitten not soon after I moved out to my first place. She was someone I could come home to and share company with when I was just milling about. Also, is there anything else you could think of that would help ease your transition? Well, good luck to you!

~Dragsum

Moving away from the security of your family's home can be frightening. You lose the comfort and security knowing your parents/siblings are there supporting you. Are you planning to go to college when you graduate? If so, where? It's not a given that when you graduate HS that you have to move away from home. In order for you to move, you will need a full-time job that pays well enough to support you (rent, utilities, phone, groceries, car insurance/payments, car maintenance, gas, etc.). I suggest you have a good talk with your parents about your future goals. My bet is they'll want you to stay home until you're ready/able to move and be on your own. I moved out at 22 and relocated 450 miles away from home. Found a decent job with an ok salary. The step was scary as I had no friends (just my sister and an aunt) in the new location. It was also exciting to finally be on my own. Since then, I've owned 3 different houses and had 2 successful careers. I no longer work, I kick back, relax and enjoy whatever comes along.
Sheepwoman

You arent a baby at all. Its a scary place, but you need to look at as an adventure. You still have plenty of time before you need to move out. Focus on what is now. Gosh, I didnt move out till I was 24. Do what you feel is comfortable for you.. Good luck!! Stay strong!!

I went through the exact same thing, but at a much older age. I was 33 when I bought my condo and moved away from my parents, but stayed in the same city.
A day after I moved, I had the worst mood crash. I was crying my eyes out thinking this was all a big mistake. That was my depression taking over my mood.
My psychiatrist told me to stick it out, that moving back with my parents would be a step backwards for me at a time when I should be moving my life forward. Turns out he was right.
What I did was, I spent just the weekends at my condo, and weekday nights at my parents' house. After a few weeks I would spend more and more nights at the condo and fewer at my parents, to ease into my new environment. Now I spend only one night a week at my parents' house. It all worked out well.