That's what it feels like sometimes. I feel things about people, situations, etc. Call it heightened intuition, hyper sensitivity or whatever but to me it's warning me of danger or "bad" people.

However, I am increasingly being seen as volatile, explosive, over defensive, aggressive, etc.

I react to what people say or do and I am then labelled as problematic, moody, a difficult person etc.

This particularly applies to my work, and earning a living. In the work environment I see and "sense" bully bosses, and their linch mobs.
I feel great negative energy emanating from some people.

I see rudeness, and unkindness all around me and perpetrated against others.
I witness passive aggressive behaviour. I see shallowness, and insincerity.

And in all this I end up being the "problem" or being "unstable", or become known for having little "temper tantrums".

All because I'm trying to protect myself and perhaps others from dubious characters who like to walk all over people.

I don't mean to sound self righteous, or somehow so much better and above others. I have many flaws but I try everyday to be a better person.
I just don't see others trying at all.

Working with women I have that issue. I have been labeled a problem because Im a non conformist. And I try to do what's best even if that's not what is the easiest or the way everyone else would do it.

In lide there are people whi are like this and probably more than you think feel the same way you do. Or they once felt that way and are now to the point of just giving up and going with the flow.

You keep being the better person!

Dude,

Not saying you're wrong or anything....

However, I find that I also pick up on a lot of these things with other people. Trouble is its usually because I'm being over-sensitive. Things which I'd notmally just ignore - I cant. Its as if I cant chill out at all....

Not saying thats you, so please dont take it the wrong way. Just a thought...

DMC,

I also feel like I sense things about people too. Only I do this erratically. It may be a sense about the nature of a person, or it may be a brief glimpse into what it feels like to be that person.

I would say that for you, (common sense dictates this) that whenever you start to have a problem with everybody then it will actually be you that has the problem. But it sounds to me like you are just doing your thing and are on your guard as you should be. This is a screwy world and people are more misguided and blinded by falsehoods then ever before. Just take quiet confidence in yourself. The people who usually point out other peoples problems, or label others, do so in an effort (either consciously or subconsciously) to take attention away from their own iniquities or shortcomings. As the Bible says, remove the plank from your own eye before you point out the speck of dust in your neighbors eye.

Just as you mentioned- the best we can do is to keep improving ourselves as we greet each new day; moreover, trying to augment our environment and the world we live in is probably the best remedy for dealing with the things that we see others failing to do. When one person stands out, others can't help but follow. We are like sheep, lol. BAAAAAAAAAA! <------(yucky sheep smiley face) There are already enough things leading people into bad places nowadays.

best wishes,
~Dragsum

Hi DMC,

What is the issue here? Workplaces are volatile and those that are bosses are essentially responsible for the mood or feel of the group they supervise.

If they are bullies then the whole group is likely to respond in either of 2 ways. One is they stand together and reject the bullying. The most common response though is to say "Thank goodness they didn't pick on me" and let the bullied person sink or swim. Alone.

Today's fast paced, ever changing work places have become extremely stressful as people compete with each other for firstly a job and secondly for promotion and so on.

It's not a normal environment by any stretch of the imagination and is why so many are falling over today as I see it.

In the US there are many who work full time but still need welfare. That alone would cause people to fight every step of the way to keep what they have and to hell with anybody else.

It creates all the things you mention. People will walk over anyone to stay in the race and survive longer. Regardless of what they are like at home or anywhere but work.

If you are trying to defend both yourself and others in these situations it's a matter of time before you feel the stress big time.

Am I saying give up your approach that all should be fair and treated equally. Absolutely not, it's people like you who give hope to others despite what you might think. Many of those who say nothing while bad behaviour is allowed wil be saying to temselves "Why can't I stand up like that person does?". But they aren't strong enough to do it.

The risk of course is to you by focusing attention on yourself with outspoken (and hopefully accurate and normal requests) opposition is that you draw the fire from above. And that causes those around you to step away.

Read again the list of emotions and actions you describe yourself. Mostly they are anger type actions and allowing anger to control you in a workplace has only one path. Out the door. You need to decide if you want to work where you do or find somewhere better. There are many good places to work of course and all bosses are not the same.

And of course you should be considering your response to the world as if it continues as you describe you will become another recluse as I am. I worked all my life until everything blew up at a workplace some years back now. Once that happened I have found it impossible to return to working for a boss as I could not let anyone control me again. I just couldn't tolerate the bullying and smug power hungry b****rds. As such I have had to find ways to work for myself and that isn't easy.

I clearly agree that most of the society I see and have experienced is negative, rude, aggressive, angry, selfish and more. It's a big part of why I've been in this depressed state for nearlyy a decade now. I just don't see any hope for the type of society we have in the West today. And the East is far worse.

Take the time to step back, look at the potential results of allowing the anger etc to rule you and try to find a way to survive in the, well I can only call it what it is, rat race.

Talk therapy? Counselling?

Best

Friendly

Hey Guys,

Thanks very much for all the responses. "Rat Race" and "power hungry smug b**tards" sum up work in this world we live in, unless of course I can find a way to be my own boss, and not have others trying to control me. Me feeling like this has given me the jolt I need to find another way and I think I am getting back on course. I do have a plan, but it won't happen over night, but with a bit of perseverance and hard work and concentration I know I can draw upon the ability and energy within me to get to another level, a level that I hope won't have me surrounded with people that try to chisel away at my soul