Hey -
My family. My stupid little family. We are all over the US, none of us live anywhere near each other and we still can't get along. I just had a heated exchange, via email of all things, with my only sister who lives clear across the US. We are still tangling over dumbass childhood issues. The actual issue is the existence of the issues! How ridiculous is that?!? She seems to think that she is the authority on our past and our childhoods. However she sees it is law. Therefore, what she thinks my life was like is what it is, and how I see it is simply not true, as she just told me. My response to her was that statement in itself makes me crazy! How can she possibly believe what she says? Just because she has never had kids doesn't seem to me be a reason for thinking that all kids are raised the same. I ended up my rant to her by saying that I am finally accepting that we will all continue to live in the superficial relationships that we have, since no one wants to acknowledge any truth in anything or know anything that might be, oh so painful, like the seriousness of my depression. I threw in the towel and said that I will pull up my big girl panties and never tell her again when I think I am a hair away from the final end and am looking to her for some reason not to, as her reply is to just muck it up like she does and think happy thoughts.
We play this stupid little game of saying, "Oh yes, I love you too!" and qualify by adding, just so long as you don't tell me anything other than wonderful happy news and that you are well and good and as rich and lucky as I am. Oh yeah, we certainly are the poster family for how people should want to be.

I feel as if I end everything I say with 'no wonder I'm as nuts as I am.'
God she makes me angry. I wish I could never talk to her again.
Thank heavens I can tell you (all) my thoughts without being made to feel worse because of them. Thank heaven for this forum and the dear good friends I have made in here.

Always Trying, but getting D*** tired of it.

Another thing we have in common, AT. My Fam thinks its laughable, that I allow myself to be depressed. them. So sad that we get more support from total strangers than from the people we love most.

Geez Blue,
I'm sorry that this is something we can both relate to. And you're right, it is sad.
Thanks for commiserating, A.T.

Family.
Who hasn't had INSANE ( ) issues with 'em?
They are the hardest people to share ourselves with. No wonder so many just get together at Christmas, and ignore each other the rest of the year.
It's sad, however. We'd like to think that those people that we grew up with, who know us well, who have put up with us for many years, and we with them, would all get along, and only do good for one another.
Sadly, 'tis not always the case.
The pro in this situation: you're not alone. :)
What to do?
Keep Trying.

Cheers,

Karr

This post has been edited by Karr: Jun 4 2008, 12:47 PM

if it makes you feel any better my TWIN sister and i live 20 minutes apart and we dont talk! oh well she does not help my depression.. chel

Family can be the cause of so many problems.
I have a sign that says. Friends welcome, family by appointment only. Lol and I believe it.

Trace