hi gang. i had a bit of bad news today and im looking for a bit of advice/comfort about this.
my sister moved out two months ago from the family home. she is just eighteen. im 28. i think i feel responsible for her because she fell out with mum and dad and i was the only one she talked to. last night she crashed her car into a poll. there were other people in the car. they are all ok thank god. the reason she crashed was because she swallowed a load of sleeping pills. im shocked and numb. her car is a wreck. shes out of controll and i dont know how to help her. i would die if any thing happend to her. this is one of many crazy stunts she has pulled. this one is scary. i cant bear seeing her loose so much weight and look like death. shes realy not well. also my parents are going through some weird seperation on and off and its taking its toll on each of us. jesus im feeling bad.

You're facing a very hard time right now dear, but we're hear for you. It sounds like you and your sister both have been through a lot. Thank God you have each other. Maybe you should let her know that in case she doesn't already, that you need her just as much as she needs you.

I just want to say right off the bat, don't answer or even consider these questions until and unless you feel ready to deal with them. But if you are, may I ask what psychological and situational issues have been plaguing your sister? Also, do you know (or have a guess) for what reason she took all those sleeping pills then went driving?

Maybe it is time for you to seek guidance from a mental health professional about your sister if she won't go to them herself. I hope she's at least found some (partially) effective medication.

Oh God. I'm sorry, I was going to say a whole bunch more, but it's 4:00am and it's been a strange and emotional night for me, and I think my brain just shut down. I have to get some sleep, but I'll drop by again tomorrow. I'm glad your sister is alright though. Don't worry, this will be worked out somehow.

(((((((Trishak))))))))

That is a huge trauma for all of you to go through.
Your sister does really sound like she needs help, as from what I can read is that she is not worried about the people around her either.
I would highly recommend that your family go for some sort of family therapy.
Unfortunately for your sister she will need to help herself, before she will turn her life around, maybe if the family goes for therapy, she may eventually join.
There is an exception though, but if she does not want the help, it may not do her much good in the long run....if she is a danger to herself and especially others, your family can opt for her to be treated involuntarily.
Did she get taken to the hospital after her accident for a check up?
If she was, they should have advised some sort of medical or theraputic help for her.

This must be a very traumatic time for you and your family. You are in my thoughts.

Trace

Hi Trishak,

Your post has a meaning for me, it really does.

All I should ... can... say is that if she is a danger to herself, or even if you only think it, then listen to her screams. I mean the silent ones.

Hey,
I don't really know what to write, but I am so sorry that you and your sister are going through a rough time. I can imagine this must be really tough on you :: Please feel free to vent to us. Also, please remember to take care of yourself too, sometimes we start to worry so much about someone else we forget about what we need. Just keep that in mind. Is there any family/friends who could help you talk to your sister or help get her some kind of help?I think it is really important that you try to get her help. I am sorry that you are going through this, it is a godsend that you and your sister have each other. Good luck, and feel free to vent or whatever you need!

thanks everyone. i feel a bit better after a nights sleep. we have all decided that each of us takes a turn to chek on her every evening. my dad tryed to keep her in the family home, but she called the police and said she was being kept against her will. she also got violent. i feel sorry for my parents and my sister at the same time. as for getting help to her, we all went to family counciling last summer, and she also spent 6 weeks in a programme so she could heve time out. i took her away for a holiday. and i tryed to be a friend rather than authoritative thinking that i would be able to support her better. i'm hoping i will find a wierd and wonderful way to get her to respond. i hate to say this but she turns me off having children. i guess its just time to fight harder. thank ye so much for the support. i find it helpfull to talk and think with other people. i'll do whatever it takes to get all of my family through the next few years. say a prayer or something to my family. thank you.

i don't know what to say or have any useful advice and for that i am sorry... just want u to know i care.. (for what it's worth)... ((hug))
bijou

( ( ( Trishak ) ) ) I hope that it gets through to her that you just love and care about her and want to see her happy. You sound like a wonderful older sister -- she is lucky to have you.
Let us know how you are doing, take care. Florry