I hope this doesnt offend anyone, its not intended to.

Alright currently Im in therapy.
My therapist is being really unfair to me.
Maybe Im just whining but to me it makes me feel even worse.
I got ONE, ONE appointment wrong. I thought it was a different day.
I called her to tell her I had to go to a different appointment with my nose and throat specialist because I had two gouges in my throat.
She immediatly became really snotty to me. (Well I dont blame her I guess).
I understand shes upset than after that she's made lots of small shots at me about remembering or not. I've told her for the longest amount of time I have trouble remembering and its getting annoying.

Everytime, "Are you gonna remember? I bet your not" , "whens your appointment with the pdoc? I bet you dont remember" Not in the fun friendly "Im just playing" way. It hurts.
And last session when I was talking to her (she got mad at me for being off my meds...and I thought i had a choice here)
I told her honestly how I felt. "Im happy that Im recieving help with the medication but I cant help feeling pathetic because I cant d-" She cuts me off without listening and it makes me feel really crappy again. She got even more mad. Its like I cant freaking trust her anymore. I walk into therapy feeling really empty. I told her I felt really suicidal and she didnt do anything, my boyfriend was fuming mad she didnt help. He almost had to force me into a psych ward.

It disapoints me because this woman has a PhD and she treats someone as she puts it, with "Chronic Depression" like this? Im not expecting any special treatment but it really puts me down.

Maybe I need a new therapist? But I feel too bad to be like "Bye I dont need you, im finding someone else" does anyone know what I mean?
My boyfriend keeps pushing me to do it, but Im just not that confidant...

Again I apologize if this offends anyone but I needed to get this out to someone who understands

{{{{Kuroneko}}}}

I'd like to say that she means well & she cares & that perhaps you were being oversensitive.

That is when I'm giving her the benefit of the doubt.

However, I'd probably have to agree with you that your therapist sounds condescending, cold, and insensitive.
Perhaps you and her are not the "right match".

Is there a way that you can see someone else to see if you would work with them better?
Do you have other options?

Have you told your therapist : "I don't like it when you cut me off. It sounds to me as if you don't care about how badly
I'm doing" etc?

That being said, I do think that you should not just "be off your meds" without consulting her.
Meds are prescribed under doctors orders, and if you're not comfortable, then perhaps you can discuss with her
& then you can taper off & switch to another medication. But oftentimes it's a very dangerous thing to just stop
taking your meds.

Good luck!

Hi, Kuroneko:

I'm certainly not offended and I think it is good that you brought up this issue.

You did not say how long you've been seeing your therapist, but there is a phase called transference in which a person reacts as if the therapist was a mother or father figure. It's a normal thing. You could be perceiving her anger from this transference point of view. . . or not. So it's important to talk about that with your therapist.

Therapists have methods--and it is possible this "I bet you won't remember" thing could be testing you ... or not. Ask her.

In any event, as fleurdepeau pointed out, you shouldn't have stopped your meds without consulting her--that's a very risky thing to do. You do have a choice, but it must be under the supervision of your doctor.

It's also normal to have all kinds of emotional reactions to your therapist sometimes, including not liking her very much.

I think that it is a good time to talk about your relationship with her, because that's the issue right now, right? Tell her what you told us and that you're considering a new therapist (she might agree and give you a referral). It might feel a little (or a lot) scary to bring up all this, but it really is important.

Good luck and let us know how it goes.

My opinion...stay on your meds and ditch that therapist. She sounds passive aggressive and no one needs that. I'd get a new therapist though and I think there are plenty of good ones out there. Unfortunately sometimes you have to sift through the not so good ones.

Thanks guys. :)
i admit I have a tendency of being too sensitive.
It seems really scary of changing.
I've had this therapist for 9 months (its like im pregnant XD)
Thanks guys, I really needed to hear it from someone else.

I would go somewhere else, you sound like you are worse off than before seeing her. I went to a guy I didn't like and rang up the office and cancelled the appointment the next day and left it at that.

Buy a calendar and do what I do, write the appt. on the calendar day and make sure the calendar is somewhere that you visit often (Kitchen?) Also, Get a NEW Therapist!!!!!!!!!!
Doug

Nothing is more of a kick in the ribs than putting all that time, effort and hope into trying to help yourself out through therapy, only to get saddled with some nutbag who's even crazier than his/her patients, for your therapist. I could never figure out why there are such stringent mental-health requirements for lawyers to apply to the bar; yet when it comes to mental health practitioners, nobody ever screens them, of all people! Talk about the damage done...

If I were you, I'd move on. Just don't do it in a way that leaves you without immediate access to help. Ask yourself stuff like: Do I have to see her to keep seeing my psychiatrist? Is she the only therapist in my local area? Is she the only one for whose services I have access?, etc. Always make sure you are somebody's patient, in case of crisis- but do your homework, and then ditch her as soon as realistically possible.

Also, I agree with everyone who warned you about cold-turkeying off meds. It's really, really risky. At least alert your doctor by telephone, and try to get a medical (as in M.D.) appointment for a meds change ASAP. Don't risk serious damage.

I think she is way over qualified to do much good to you at this time; you may someone who has more common sense, I'm being a bit fictitious and sarcastic. I really believe that some of the so called pros need some counseling themselves and a shot of common sense and decency. Good luck to you, Frank

I've seen my therapist for about 2 1/2 months now. So far he has made me mad only once, but in after thought it was for my own good. Other than that he asks questions and I talk. I ramble off into different subjects and he follows right along - asking questions and making comments when necessary. With that being said, I agree with the majority here - get a new therapist. If you feel more comfortable, call around and find a new one first, just to be safe, and then get rid of her - while your walking out the door tell her why you have made your decision. If she is offending you, she's likely offending the majority of her clients and needs a kick in the pants.

Hm, Looking at it at face value and leaving oversensitivity from your side out of it, I have the notion that there are definitely passive-aggressive or even borderline abusive elements in the way you T projects herself to you. Of course I don't know you from Adam or Eve, but I think that oversensitivity is one of the pathologies that is tied in with what afflicts you and that you are working on and not one that is to be leveraged to enforce compliance. In effect your T presents herself as a critical and avenging 'parent' or authority figure and pushes you into the role of an anxious child by needling you with her pet-peeves.
The net effect of the needling is that it invokes shame in you and that is NEVER a helpful tool because it effectively pushes you back into your past and invokes your negative self-talk and feelings of worthlessness. Really, it makes you replay your depressive and self-defeating life-script instead of encouraging you to be and stay in your mental present. The mental present is the only place you can come to the necessary conclusions to make the needed changes so that you can leave the obsolete life-script where it belongs (in the past, that is.).
Anyway, maybe I'm missing the point all together, but in my view I don't see you T being very helpful to you. Get back on meds and, I may suggest getting yourself on an Omega3-rich diet. Worked wonders for me.
Be kind, Be happy, be yourself and don't forget to be kind to and happy with yourself.
Lupercus

therapists are like significant others....different strokes for different folks :)