Or do you keep it to yourself?

I haven't told my bf that I have anxiety problems, but last weekend I was out with everyone and (2) of his buddies gf's put there smokes in my purse and then she grabbed my pills joking aroundly she goes "what are you on" and she read it and she's like well what is this niravam for real I never heard of it.... I was like oh geeeez thanks ya know.. my personal business (but she could just look it up online and know, so I told her) I told her and her sister since they wanted to know but I haven't told me bf yet and I don't want them to tell him first but I don't want him to think I am some nutbag or something you know??!!! But what do I do?? I really didn't want to say anything just incase it didn't work out he could use it against, and I didnt want to tell him cause I was afraid he won't understand and he will think I am weird... I do trust these two girls but they are also his friend and I shouldn't hide things if I want to grow in a relationship with someone right?!

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my opinion only -- anxiety is nothing to be ashamed of -- even so called normal people will get a touch of it. But, don't feel obligated to tell everyone either. Your health issues are your business and no one else's -- unless YOU decide to share the information. Now, if you were at the point that you were getting serious with your boyfriend, I would make sure he knew -- but it doesn't sound like you're at that point.

and -- you would be surprised how many people are on something for anxiety & depression -- it's such a normal thing nowadays that no one thinks twice about it.

i think you're over-thinking this and worrying too much over a little thing - which is normal for you since you have anxiety.

and -- if this guy is the kind to use something like a medical problem against you, then he's not the one for you anyway. stay far away from anyone who's not understanding of your issues.

I wanted to add that it's also not in your best interest to carry these meds in your purse and they are a benzo and someone who knows this may try to steal them due to their ability to take down anxiety, quickly. As we all know, there are people who will steal this kind of med and either try to sell it or abuse it, themselves.

A quick way to explain anxiety disorders to another person is to have them remember a time when they felt anxious, like when taking a test or having to recite something in school and ask them to imagine what it would be like to have this feeling intensified 10 times. Chances are that they will ask you how you deal with this, and it's safe to say that you are in treatment and are learning how to cope with this feeling.

Being on meds is no one's business, but your own. How much you share with other people is up to you. Seeing who will respect your wishes not to be in crowds or whatever triggers your anxiety is something that will happen in the future. I know I had a friend who just couldn't understand why I couldn't drive her to the store every day, until I set out to take her and started to panic. She got an eyeful and stopped asking, lol!

Jackie

i dont want to answer your question directly but its much better have a look at this site first... everything ..the atmostphere and the way people talk and how they handle their problems
anxiety is not sth. to be ashamed of ...it just makes you "a little " different from others. so what? people dont catch cold ? dont get a running nose? thats "a little " different too.
dont panic cause it first happens in you. in addition to that i think you boyfriend should have the least respect for your decision and the way you are . i think thats what boyfriend is for.
As for the other people,the rude ones i mean, they are the reasons why you get anxiety . you get it? what if they treat you differently?

Good advise everyone thank you, I appreciate it.

I don't feel like I am different but some people just don't understand it because they have never been there before, I didn't truley understand it but I saw my mom suffer from it so I had an idea but really not until you expeirence it can you really know.

My bf and I have been friends for 3+ years before we even decided to go into the relation aspect. Maybe if I did tell him, I'd be more relieved. Thats a valid point not to carry them in my purse, I never really thought of someone trying to steal them, but, I take them at night and stay at his house so I have to take them with me where I go. I just know eventually he's gunna be like what do you take those pills of everynight or something lol... I also didn't know how to bring it up oh hey .... you know

If you have been with him for three years, chances are high that he's seen you in some kind of anxiety state. I know I told my husband prior to marriage that I had had some issues with depression and was probably going to have more in the future, but this anxiety was something new for me! He knew that I wasn't sleeping at night and found me awake in the livingroom and could only guess what I was going through until he caught me in an anxiety state....

I guess you know him and how he'll react. If you are in a committed relationship, I'd tell him. Maybe get one of those pill cases and take a couple of pills in your purse?

Jackie

Thanks Jackie, but this actually just started happening to me a little over a month ago so its new to me... I didn't always have anxiety/panic attacks.. they just came on recently.


Thats actually a really great idea I could get a case then I don't need to lug the script bottles around and then people don't need to know what they are!! I am a little dumb thinking sometimes dahh!!

A little update I did end up telling the bf and he totally understood his mom suffers from them

I'm glad that you felt like you trusted him enough to share this, as it's not the first thing you want to tell someone. I don't think anyone has ever seen me in a panic attack and I'm sure it isn't something I'd ever want anyone to see. I have seen people having them, and it's kind of spooky. I know how scared I felt having one, like it always felt like it wasn't going to stop or I was loosing my mind. Nothing another person would understand if they never had one.

I wonder if this anxiety has to do with the relationship? After all, you are taking a risk......

Jackie

I don't think there's any shame in admitting to having anxiety/depression. As long as it is not advertised. I would say half the people in my office know of my issues with anti-depressants and anxiety, and I'm still quite liked and respected. The truth should hurt no one.

FYI........ Be careful, you can get in quite a bit of trouble caring certain meds without the scrpt. People have been arrested in some instances.

I keep it to myself. I told my mom and she said it was all in my head. My sister was really understanding. DH thinks I'm a headcase after I told him.

Can someone help me plesae? I have been researching for several days but cannot find an answer. I recently had a panic attack and was diagnosed w/ anxiety and panic disorder and am currently on .5mg of clonazepam one time a day.

I am 17 years old and the klonos make me feel great and not panicy at all.

However, I like to hang out, party, and drink. I dont even care about getting completed wasted anymore, but I really enjoy drinking, even if it just socially. I weigh 145lbs and have a somewhat high tolerance to alcohol.

I just want to know how much if any I can drink with my klonos.


I am scared that drinking with them will cause me to have a panic attack, or overdose. My dosages are pretty low though, so I think I am okay...

I would just like to know if I can drink, how much I can drink, and what will happen (slow breathing, slow heart, etc, or anythnig unsafe?)

Sorry for not making a new topic, but it wouldnt let me and I would like to get advise ASAP. Sorry!!! Btw this site looks awesome and I read threads all the time and the people here are very very cool and helpful!

I remember I had a really bad panic attack when I was in school during a presentation I was giving. I was forced to stop and tell everybody in the class that I was having a panic attack. I just told everybody that I had anxiety issues and I needed to regain my composure. Surprisingly, they were pretty receptive about it and except for one person they were all very understanding. You can't control the reaction of a few ignorant people, but for the most part in my experiences, if you just get it out in the open and tell someone they would understand.

For those suffering from social anxiety, show your loved one this documentary and it will help them better understand your illness

http://themindinmotion.org/files/Mind_in_Motion_Ep_03_Afraid_of_People.wmv