Hey all,

Hopin everyone is ok at the moment.

Bit of a rant really -ear muffs and chocoloate at the ready...

I have had it with my "so called" care professionals. And this is why....(better have the ear muffs on now!)-
They stand me up at an hours notice (so many times I've lost count) and never say sorry. I have been depressed for three years and have had a care professional assigned to me for that long (various over that period) and I have never had an apology out of one of them. Its like they feel they don't have to apologise to a depressed person. I wonder if they think its a bad thing to be depressed.
Many people get depressed for many different reasons and the lack of humanity from these guys really pi$$es me off!

I would apologise if I miss a hairdressing appointment, so why can't they apologise for letting someone hanging on to being alive down? Would it be that hard(??) Maybe they think if you are desperate you will take any sort of treatment and put up with it. I am depressed because I am a carer which means that at the bottom of things, I don't have a low self esteem-I get down because I can't handle all I have to gte through- and don't think I should put up with it so don't beg and would rather put up with any lack of support and die than allow people to treat me like this for no reason, but they think they can get away with it. Why else would they not apologise? Why not just utter the word sorry like you would to a hairdresser you were letting down??

Letting someone with depression down is slightly more important, me thinks.

Unfortunately, when I am very depressed I can't assert myself to say something when they do this but I have no idea why they can't take responsibilty for their actions and think that I would trust them with decisions about my care when they prove time and time again not to be reliable, sensitive or human, for want of a better word.

So this is why I don't like my health services. Although ultimately it is the system which should take responsibility for giving inadequate and irresponsible care to people suffering from depression, all "care" workers I've met haven't been caring enough to not once apologise when they don't turn up.

....and I think its PANTS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! :)

Anyhoo, it is now safe to remove ear muffs -

Just wonderin if anyone else has ever experienced anything like this..??

Any thoughts/experiences welcome!

Best Wishes! xxxxx

xxx Scratch xxx ...

P.S. Sorry for the rant! (whyioutta..;)..!)

This post has been edited by nhsnotp2scratch: Mar 4 2007, 05:27 PM

P.S.

Pants! Pants! Pants! Stigma in medicine!

Hey All,

Hoping everyone is ok at the moment.

Hope my rant didn't come accross saying that people with low self esteems deserve to be treated badly. That is not at all what I meant. Veyr sorry if I caused offence.

Best Wishes

xx Scratch xxx

You go scratch!!!!!

Thats what I think - my Pdoc is lovely but has no common sense whatsover

Just found out she FORGOT to refer me to CBT 4 months ago

GRRRRRRRRRRRRR

These are peoples lives they are playing ewith

ugh I really cant stand people like that.
I hope you find a different place because they really seem like they dont understand what depression really is

Just once I'd like to find a therapist who could think of something to say other than "You should get a divorce". Even when I tell them right up front that divorce is totally not an option for me and that I'd like help dealing with my problems in another way, they always bring it right back around to divorce. I don't feel like I've ever really got any good advice from a therapist.

I finally found a psychiatrist and therapist who seem to care. My therapist has apolgized a couple of times. Recently, I almost had a nervous breakdown because my appointment wasn't "put on the computer" although I had a hand-written called that it was that day at that time. The secretary just said, "you're not on the computer". I really, really needed to see my therapist and left in tears. I took that card and the one for that appointment with me. When I told my therapist, she apologized all over the place and wanted to see the card. I could see that she recognized the handwriting and would confront her.
I have had bad experiences before. What don't pschiatrists, therapists and their receptionists not understand about depression/anxiety, etc. and that their behavior might just send us over the edge?
I've also had some major problems with other medical professionals. Once they learn that you have depression and/or anxiety, they dismiss any physical issues. I had one that lectured me on not improving under his care because of my depression -- a tirade that lasted longer than any appointment I'd had with him in the past. (I was complaining of a lump in my throat that felt like a pingpong ball. After his tirade, I went to Mayo Clinic and was diagnosed that afternoon as have a growth closing off my esophagus. I never again returned to him or anyone in gastroenterolgy because a few years before I had a horrendous attack of crohn's disease and ended up nearly comatose in intensive care for over two weeks (seen by everyone in gastroenterolgy). I was later sent home, only to suffer more and more over months until I begged my primary doctor to send me to Mayo Clinic (a 5 hour ambulance ride). I arrived after 10 p.m. but a resident correctly diagnosed my condition and sent me home well after 3 days in the hospital. I had been off work for over 6 months because I was anxious and depressed and had nothing wrong with me physically.
Where did these Quacks go to medical school (or do they just not teach or talk about there -- or maybe their professors tell them that depression and anxiety will come with no physical problems?
As you, my situations make me angry and untrusting.